Attention - Suffering from Infidelity? Then this is for you!Marriage 911 --- From Rick Reynolds Dear Friend, If you need to know how to respond to a betrayal... if you need to know how to help your mate heal... if you want to know how to rebuild trust... if you want to take the worst thing that has ever happened and make it the best, but don't know where to turn, then this is exactly what you've been looking for. Here's the story... I cheated on my wife, devastating my life, her life, and turning our world upside down. For Stephanie it was really hard because she wasn't sure who to tell... where to turn... who to trust... what to read...or even how to begin to address the mess. I had cost her everything. Her security, her self-respect... the life she had cherished... her dreams of the future...it even cost her pride in the man she'd married. Not only that, but she was awash in the anguish of my affairs. She had no idea how to stop the pain or quiet the intrusive thoughts. Daily she suffered from the painful reminders of my actions with others. At the same time, I felt hopeless because I wasn't even sure how to help...what to do...I also just wanted to find some hope and a way to work through the crisis and I wasn't even sure that was possible. Stephanie desperately wanted a way to move beyond the pain, to stop the intrusive thoughts...to find hope...to feel safe in her marriage again...to feel good about her decisions in life, but neither of us knew how to make that happen, but she was at least willing to explore that possibility. To tell the truth, we weren't sure where to start. My actions resulted in us having to leave our home and move to another city. To think I was qualified to be a marriage and family therapist was a joke, so I left my career and started building houses (since I had wrecked ours, it seemed like a good profession). Most importantly, I desperately wanted to help Stephanie recover from what I had done. Please don't think I see myself as a victim, I was the one responsible for the mess. At the same time, I wanted to become a man I could respect and someone Stephanie could feel proud of. Thankfully, Stephanie agreed to work this out with me and so our quest began. We read everything we could get our hands on. We talked with other couples who had already navigated the healing process of an affair. We talked, we processed, we got honest, and I pursued becoming a man of faith and of character. The journey was amazing. I discovered you can never be loved unconditionally if you only conditionally let the other person know who you are. I was amazed that she could still love me and forgive me and that love began to change me. It wasn't long until everything seemed to change and our marriage became better than ever. But it wasn't enough. Everywhere we turned, we ran into couples who were hurting...looking for ways to work through their pain...questioning if there was any way to really recover from a betrayal. We shared our story with as many as we could, but it seemed so insignificant compared to the need. So after 5 years, Stephanie challenged me to go back to marriage and family therapy and to begin addressing this issue. You can't imagine how hard that was for me. I felt so unworthy because of my past, but Stephanie kept reminding me that the failure and redemption of our marriage were the very things that ultimately qualified me. So with her encouragement, I returned. From the beginning I wanted to help couples find their way back from betrayal. So we did our homework...studied what others were doing that seemed to be working...and took the lessons learned from our personal experience. Then we took the best and began to develop an entirely new system for treating couples in crisis. Stephanie and I were both thrilled by what we had developed, but we were limited by how many couples I could see a day. There was no way we could meet the demand for our city, much less for a state or nation. So my wife said we had to do more. Even those taking our course kept asking how we could offer this program to the population at large. So the Affair Recovery Center was born. Not out of greatness, but rather out of loss and God's ability to redeem the irredeemable. We joined with others dedicated to helping those in crises and began the process of developing and testing the effectiveness of online services. Since then, I've worked with thousands of couples... A Proven Method Look, I've worked with thousands of couples who have successfully recovered from infidelity and the vast majority of them now have the marriage they've always wanted. And there is a process. There are specific tasks that you can follow that will allow you to move beyond betrayal. And while you may still have work to do after this 90 day course, if both parties follow this process you will certainly have a good sense of hope about the future and you'll have a new vision for your marriage. This method works almost every time. And the best part is... Marriage 911 There are some great resources written for individuals and couples trying to move beyond a betrayal. There are also some great forums such as BAN and others that give much needed support to those who are hurting. Finally, there are also some great therapists and marital coaches specializing in infidelity who can be a tremendous help. I would highly recommend taking advantage of all these resources but Marriage 911 is a totally unique and effective approach.
What are the Marriage 911 is an online, group-based course for couples with a weekly group conference call and weekly teaching videos. You will get to experience other couples as they wrestle with the damage done by betrayal. You will gain new insights into your own marriage by experiencing their struggles.
Marriage 911 also provides a new level of flexibility and accessibility. You and your mate can do this course from the convenience of your own home, or if circumstances have you separated, you can still work in the group together; all you need is a phone. Many military families have taken advantage of this flexibility to allow them to continue working on their relationship even when separated by continents. Finally, Marriage 911 is extremely affordable. My hourly rate is $200 an hour. If you were to come to see me personally for a weekend to cover the same material, it would cost $5,000. This course is less than a 1/10 of that cost and we've found the group process is even more effective. Why wouldn't you take advantage of a process that is more effective and costs less? What Is In this course you will learn:
Each of us has a historical lens through which we see our mate. The longer you've been married the more distorted the lens. We don't really see our mate as they truly are or understand their motives. Instead, we tend to truncate our mate and only see an abbreviated version of the real person. We tend to do this to in order to simplify our interactions with them, but it's at the cost of really understanding who they truly are. A betrayal only complicates this process and now both parties have a tendency to see their mate through a more negative lens. I've actually had people tell me that it took over a year for them to see anything in their mate that they considered positive. The "group process" provides a vehicle where you can more clearly see and understand your mate. It is far easier to understand what's happening through the lives of the other couples then it is through your own mate. This new insight promotes a new empathy and compassion. Why Should You I have been successfully treating couples suffering from infidelity for the past 20 years. Not only that, but my wife and I successfully recovered from my own infidelity 24 years ago. My personal experience created the desire to devote my time and energy to help others impacted by infidelity. I have done the necessary research to show this approach works because I didn't want you to just believe me I wanted to be able to prove that it works. What does that mean to you? Why should you care? It means simply this: I know what it takes to survive infidelity. And in the Marriage 911 Course, I take this world of experience, with all of my clients and translate it into a blueprint you can use to find a path of healing for you and your mate in just 90 days. This is more than possible, but there are a few requirements:
Discover The Marriage In fact, if you buy Marriage 911 right now you could soon be enjoying the results you want,
Seriously consider the reasons for salvaging your marriage:
Frequently Asked Q. "What if I'm not sure if I want to save the marriage?" A. Well, if you not sure you want to save your marriage, that also means you're not sure that you don't want to save it. Many couples find that the course helps them solidify what they would like to do. So you can use it as a means of determining what you want to do. Considering the emotional, financial, and relational cost of divorce, don't you think it might be worth exploring, for 90 days, whether or not your marriage could become what you've always wanted? Q. "But I don't have any feelings for my mate, why should I think they would ever come back?" A. Not having feeling at this point is normal. It's common for either the hurt spouse or the unfaithful spouse to have lost all desire for their mate. In fact, it's even worse than that, often it feels as if it's less than zero and the thought of your mate touching you or you having to touch your mate is repulsive. Even so, there is a strong probability those feelings well come back, but not without some changes on both your parts. Now look, let's get real. People can and do change. The very fact that you have different feelings today then you did on the day you got married is proof that you can change. In fact, if on that day someone had told you that you would change and come to a point where you couldn't stand to be near your mate you would have laughed and said it would never happen. So when I tell you that you can change and find a strong desire for your mate again, then you'll laugh and say it couldn't happen, but you're wrong, it can. The challenge, however, is that negative change can occurs with little or no effort, but positive change takes effort on our part. If you're not willing to do the work, then you're right change won't happen, but if you'll get the necessary help, then it can and Marriage 911 is a great place to start. Q. We already have a marriage therapist. Why would we want to do your course? A. The Marriage 911 course supplements normal marriage and family therapy. It is not therapy, it's education. But it has several features that really help the recovery process. Having other couples working through the same program really helps facilitate understanding, honesty, caring, respect, and support. Many find that using this process is like putting the recovery process on steroids. It will help you move quickly and efficiently through the initial stages of your recovery process. In fact, you can use the exercises in your therapy to help facilitate healing. Q. "What if we have to miss a week?" A. One advantage of Marriage 911 is the flexibility it affords. All you need is access to a telephone to join your scheduled group, but if you can't make it then....with the group's permission, that session could be recorded so you could listen to it later, and/or you would be given time in the next group session to present your homework. You'll find your group to be very supportive and my experience has been they well do whatever is necessary to help you get what you need. Q. "How can an online course really work?" A. To me that is one of the most amazing discoveries of this process. Logically it would seem that it wouldn't work as well as being face to face with others, but research shows it actually works as well or better. I'm not sure I can tell you exactly why, but I have a theory. 90% of communication is visual. We pick up all kinds of messages from body language, but where there are no visuals we naturally begin to fill in the missing pieces. We imagine how others look, what their meanings and intents are. But with an online course we get to fill in the blanks in the way that works best for us. In Marriage 911 you never see what the other people look like, you never even know their last names, for that reason, you get to just fill in the blanks as to who they are and as humans we tend to imagine them to be the way we need them to be in order for us to get the greatest benefit. It naturally takes away the judgments we might unconsciously make of others and allows us to see and hear their hearts more clearly thereby helping us to better understand our own situation. Q. "Why not just hire a marriage therapist to take us through this process?" A. You should if you can afford it. As a professional marriage and family therapist, I know it can be very helpful. My only suggestion would be to get a therapist who specializes in working with infidelity. However a good marriage and family therapist, at $100 an hour for 12 sessions might cost you $1,200 and if you're not quite able to afford those rates then Marriage 911 is a great option. Additionally, Marriage 911 offers ongoing support beyond the first 90 days to assure that you get the help you need. Q. "What if this format doesn't work for me?" A. That would be rare, but certainly possible. So if it didn't work that's why we offer an iron-clad guarantee. We want your healing far more than your money. If all we wanted was money there would be much easier ways to set this system up, but that's not our goal. So if it doesn't work, then just let us know. You've already had to take enough risk just getting to this point; we'll take the risk for whether or not this works for you. That being said I would ask that you not judge the product before you complete the course. You can't possibly know whether or not it will work by your initial judgments. There is a proven process, but you have to be willing to go through the process in order for it to work. Q. "Why does it cost so much?" A. I guess that's a matter of opinion. Most of my friends and even past participants keep asking why it is so cheap. There is nothing else like this on the market. You are getting over 12 hours of video, which take you step by step through first stages of recovery. You are getting a professionally facilitated group once a week to keep you on track and to assure you are moving in the right direction. You are getting access to a mentor couple who can help encourage and facilitate your healing and you are getting access to forums and other free resources. While I know it's not as cheap as a book, it's not the same as a book and if you were to spend the same amount of time in individual or couples therapy and if you were to purchase all of the support recourses then it would cost you well over a thousand dollars so it's not cheap, but for what you're getting it's far less expensive than any other alternative. Q. "I don't believe you. What do you have to say to that Mister Smarty Pants? A. I don't blame you... you don't know me (if you did, you would trust me with your kids, your car, and your credit cards... and you would know you were 100% safe in doing so) But I understand the question. That's why I offer... 
Don't Just Take My Word For It... What Others Have To Say About Their Experience With Marriage 911
Here's What to Do Now... Imagine the peace you'd feel in having your questions answered, the relief in having the pain and suspicion stop...knowing your mate understood and cared...being able to feel good about yourself again...feeling safe in your own home...
The longer you wait to get started the longer you have to wait to come to a place of healing and wholeness. Please don't delay. Let's get you on a path to healing. Sincerely, Rick Reynolds LCSW PS. If you're skeptical that anyone can move beyond a betrayal and find a fulfilling and meaningful relationship...take me up on my guarantee. Join the course and do the work. And if it doesn't work... just ask and I'll send you a 100% refund. No questions asked.  |
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