Thank-you for another insightful and quite helpful video-blog post Samuel.

Is it also a denial of reality to blame the betrayed for their affair? Or is that someting else?

A year after our second d-day, I remain tormented over how my now ex-wife blamed me post discovery, for her affair with an ex. She also blamed my anger and pain as the cause of our failed recovery. Is that also a denial of reality?

I find the blame very difficult to accept but I keep wondering what I could have done differently and what I need to own and be responsible for.

It’s so much about their denial. My husband still denying his choice that put us where we are today. He continues to bring up his childhood, my response is after two failed marriages perhaps you should have sought help. Simply, he knew it was wrong, he is a Christian but chose his addiction over all.

Kacee