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The Recovery Library gave me 24/7 support because I could be up at 3am and search for the topic I was struggling with. It also helped as a couple because we could investigate topics together so it wasn’t subjective. I trusted this information because it was from professionals who also had lived through and recovered from infidelity. Double credibility in my book.
--A, Florida

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Financial Infidelity: 6 Tips to Fix It : Financial infidelity has been rampant in the news*, as a recent poll by The American Institute of CPAs claimed that 30
Life After Divorce: How the Unfaithful Sees It : I once heard it said, “love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.” I’ve always believed people to be profoundly naïve about marriage, however naïveté may be even higher when it comes to life
How To Handle Pain: Healing After An Affair : I went to an end of the year bash with a bunch of friends during my junior year in high school. We had a great time grilling burgers and listening to music.
The Infidelity Divorce Syndrome: Divorce Recovery After Infidelity : How does infidelity impact those who get divorced (i.e. divorce recovery) and what are their unique challenges?
How to Prevent Relapse: Healing After an Affair : A couple of years ago, Steph and I went canoeing with friends on the Guadalupe River. It was the picture-perfect spring day.
6 Steps To Confronting Your Mate About Betrayal : Do you think your mate has been unfaithful?
Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair : How often have you done something you didn’t want to do? Behavior doesn’t equal motive. The motives behind cheating are vast and complicated.
Social Media, Emotional Affairs & Infidelity : I’m older than dirt. I recently received a notice for my 40th high school reunion. I never imagined I would be 40, much less attend my 40th high school reunion. While the John H.
Surviving Infidelity: Finding the Root Problem And How To Heal : I once heard that if you put a smart mouse in a maze and put a piece of cheese on the other side of the maze, the mouse will follow its nose until it finds the cheese.
A Crucial Step To Surviving Infidelity: Discovery Part 4 : I watched in horror as police handcuffed my wife and drove off. I was only trying to get her to be quiet and let me sleep.

Help for the Betrayed

Forgiving Infidelity: The Gift of Forgiveness : Long ago when I was a child, I had a friend who abused and misused me. The circumstance was simple (as is most of what happens in childhood).

Help for the Unfaithful

Pimping Tenderness : Years ago John entered my office requesting help for his dilemma: “Women are always coming on to me” he began “and my wife is really upset about it”. “What can I do”?
After An Affair - To Tell or Not to Tell : “Why should I tell?” is one of the questions most frequently asked by the betrayer after an affair, and for them, this question presents a frightening dilemma.
20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse : By Rick Reynolds, LCWS Copyright 2011 Published in the United States of America

Understanding the Affair

Why Couples Fail After An Affair, Part 3: Unfaithful Spouse Not Getting It : A few years ago I threw my back out. In my wife’s defense, this was the first time and both of us were unaware of the seriousness.
Dealing With Infidelity: How to Get Your Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) : Love will always act in the best interest of another.
The Definition of Freedom- Before and After An Affair : “None are so hopelessly enslaved as those who falsely believe they are free.”  Goethe
Telling Your Children After the Affair: Part 2 : Last week I began exploring the topic of telling your children after an affair.
Telling Your Children After the Affair: Part 1 : I well remember my oldest daughter bringing home her first boyfriend for me to meet. It was a day I had long dreaded. Was someone trying to take my little girl away?
The Problem with Forgiveness : If you’re looking for specific information on how to reconcile, you’ll need to look elsewhere.
Do you know the truth? … : Do you know the truth? …
Why Couples Fail After an Affair Part 2 : Lack of Safety in the Relationship
Why Couples Fail After an Affair, Part 1 : Knowing What Happened
Six Types of Affairs : Category 1 The Low Rent RendezvousCategory 2 Lonely Hearts Club