Success Stories
For Candiece, the discovery was like "falling off a cliff and never hitting the ground." For Cornellus, it was the culmination of a lifelong void—an attempt to fill a childhood wound with… read more
I was an emotionally abusive, raging alcoholic, and I placed the blame for it on my wife. I was dealing with a lot of issues from my time in the military and law enforcement, and I used that as an… read more
My husband, Larry, and I had been married for 18 years, but we had really just gone into our separate corners. I had an affair with someone I met while traveling for a part-time job. Confessing… read more
My husband had been unfaithful most of our time together, and it was a constant struggle for 10+ years. By the grace of God and with the support of friends and those at Affair Recovery, our… read more
I have always been one to chase “the next big thing” in my life, and assumed that would stop when I married. I did nothing to quiet this desire on my way, just assumed it would go away. This led… read more
Rodney and Angela share their story of redemption and recovery from infidelity and addiction. We hope that it provides you with encouragement for your journey.
A preview video of an Affair Recovery mentor couple. They share their journey through recovery from infidelity. Our hope is that it will give you hope for your future.… read more
I struggled with sexual addiction for most of my life, and I thought I had it under control. The thing is I cannot manage it. It came roaring back, and I destroyed my marriage and my… read more
I have been through a lot in my life but nothing compares to the pain and heartache of the finding out about my husband’s affair. However, God was able to take something terrible and turn it into… read more
Testimonials
"I was hesitant to attend because I didn't believe our issue needed intense counseling. However, I discovered my partner was dealing with a lot of trauma from my missteps. It was essential to hear and deal with this."
- Virtual | EMSW Participant
"I had zero idea/expectations and I did have some hesitancy, but I am very glad we came. Before EMS, I was constantly consumed by how to “fix this” but now I am more at peace with that God is in control and He knows and all I can control is what I do and however the outcome, I AM WORTHY and my life matters. I am not defined by what I have done and my story isn’t over."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I had a lot of anxiety before coming to EMS. We had already tried so many things to heal, and some of those things ended up being more harmful than helpful. But EMS is exactly what we needed. I now feel optimistic and hopeful that my wife and I can move beyond the affair and rebuild a new, amazing marriage."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"It was wonderful. I felt loved, accepted, and cared for. We weren’t sure about coming, [as] we are not religious. We felt very accepted. We felt very stuck [before] and this weekend gave us so much hope for the future."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"When I chose EMS, I wanted some ways to figure out a way to “forgive” my unfaithful spouse. I was not sure if we had marriage left or if we were just pretending. After EMS we are going back with the hope that we had a solid chance at redeeming our love and find a Marriage 2.0."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"It's getting to the point where I NEED to be with these guys and our group leader. I'm at peace amongst a group of people wanting to be better people. When I hang up, I'm back to my life where every moment is a struggle and I have to face the guilt and shame from my community of friends."
- B. Idaho | HFH Participant
"The women I met in my group are amazing. I have created some life long friendships that I wouldn't otherwise. Given the circumstances of my life right now, it's a special thing to have others that I can connect with, that are going through the same thing."
- N. Idaho | HH Participant
"Our first counselor was not properly trained in marital infidelity and only prolonged and increased my pain. 911 Marriage [EMS Online] was a gift of incredible proportions."
- M - New Mexico
"Even though I felt blindsided and thought I had a good marriage, it turns out that my marriage wasn’t as great as I perceived and the reality of the affair was an awakening as to how broken we really were. Whether I was headed for divorce or try to stay together, either path was going to require healing and learning how to build a greater loving relationship. This programs help toward healing is incredible. For that reason alone, Affair Recovery, in my opinion, is the right first move for anyone that has experienced an affair. We both joined the program unsure where our marriage was heading. I was amazed how the course offered specific programs for the each side of an affair and programs for couples that are considering staying together. To hear that the goal for marriages that want to try to stay together wasn’t to restore the existing marriage because that marriage was broken seemed logical. Then came the unimaginable... with time and effort a "new marriage" could be forged that could be better than we ever had. We decided that’s what we wanted, try for a better us. Thanks to Affair Recovery we are on that path."
- Anonymous | HH Participant
"I am an unfaithful wife who grew up in a Christian environment and believed herself to be a good girl all her life yet here I was signing up for this group... Didn't know how and why it happened and who I was anymore. This course revealed more than what I knew I could understand about myself. It completely changed the way I think about myself, life, and marriage. The only regret was that I didn't sign up sooner. "
- E. Florida | HFH Participant
"We committed not to end the relationship until we completed these courses but felt like quitting some days. I didn’t realize the depth of the grieving I was experiencing and my need for support and people that understood what was happening. I didn’t know that the things that I was feeling were common to those that have been betrayed and that the steps taken each week would bring relief from the suffering. I needed community and a structured plan in order to stabilize and begin to heal and I didn’t know It! I am so grateful to Rick, his team at AR and the many wounded anguished folks that have been so vulnerable sharing their journey to benefit me in healing as well!"
- S., Canada | HH Participant
"I was expecting an embarrassing, crying, shame-filled event that would be hard to get through. I expected hard, tough work. What it turned out to be was a well-organized event run by compassionate folks interested in helping everybody, betrayed and betrayer, understand where they are and what’s possible. It’s strange to say, but the work was hard, but it had heart and didn’t feel hard to do. I would emphatically recommend EMS for anybody going through this. I’m leaving optimistic and excited about what our marriage can be."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I wasn't quite sure what to expect other than realizing it would probably be an intense 3 days……... EMS weekend helped me to face the truth head on by exploring his feelings, my feelings and understanding us both more. Meeting other people going through the same thing made me feel such a sense of community and belonging. I went with an open mind and left with more hope for our future. [Virtual EMS Weekend]"
- EMSW Participant
"We had a wonderful group leader, always kind and validating. My group was wonderful. I am praying for the beautiful recovery sisters as they continue their journey of healing. The curriculum was very helpful. I am encouraged to know how much that God loves me and He will help me as I lean into Him. I want to come to complete forgiveness of my husband and all the women he had sexual encounters with in God’s time. I have learned that I need to grieve well and that forgiveness is not cheap. It is costly to my soul and God is greater than any evil power that wishes me harm. God is able. I can trust Him. Thank you for this course and for continued access to the library. It has been very helpful in my healing journey. Many blessings."
- M.B., IN | HH Participant
"The group of women in our call are all so helpful in sharing and discussing our current situations. This has been a lifesaver for me as I so often feel alone in this process."
- D. CO | HFH Participant
"Looking back, I never could have imagined the depth of healing that was possible through the Hope for Healing course. My journey was not an easy one—infidelity left deep wounds, and I struggled with the weight of my choices and the pain they caused my wife and family. I have been married for 30 years, and I was trapped in the sins of adultery for 26 of those years. When I started the course, I wasn’t sure what to expect. I feared judgment, but instead, I found understanding and a place of peace in the weekly group sessions. I found tools to face my past, acknowledge the damage, and begin on the road of redemption."
- Anonymous | HFH Participant
"Insights in the course are spot-on and extremely relevant."
- Anonymous | HFH Participant
"At the beginning I thought this was all hogwash, but after about 4 weeks I realized most of the information we were going over I could actually relate to and felt the course was written for me..."
- Anonymous | HFH Participant
"These 6 weeks that we have been on this journey have been very insightful and productive. We have learned many GOOD things. Thanks too our Group Leader for his help and support. We will miss our weekly calls with you!!!"
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"Being the unfaithful, I was very nervous and scared to start the weekend. Oh man, did those feelings go away less than 5 minutes after I first walked through the door. I experienced how to open up and share my feelings, be more open and honest. I see a brighter future for myself and our marriage. We are going to thrive! Much love to all the staff and this organization. God bless!"
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
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Take the Affair AnalyzerAccording to Peggy Vaughn’s research on infidelity, “86% of those struggling through infidelity will remain married if they are able to discuss the infidelity as much as it needs to be discussed in order for spouses to move on.” Peggy Vaughn, from Help for Therapists (and Their Clients) in Dealing with Affairs, Rep La Jolla, Dialog, 2002. Print.
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