Emergency Marital Seminar Online

"Feels like this week is a turning point from victim to victor!"

10/24/24

- K.L., KY | EMSO Participant

"I felt stressed and anxious going into the first group meeting. Our Group Leader was awesome. In the initial minutes of the meeting, he had me laughing and relaxed. I look forward to this week's assignment and the next group meeting. I am so glad to be taking this course."

9/9/24

- R.K., Canada | EMSO Participant

"The work that we did to prepare for this week was very meaningful. I believe this is what I was always wanting to hear from my spouse, as I am the betrayed spouse. I have deeply wanted him to know my full sense of losses."

8/20/24

- N.H., CT | EMSO Participant

"The curriculum continues to be stellar. I did Harboring Hope course so wasn't sure if there would be new breakthroughs - but Week 3 was awesome and eye opening and week 4 was very helpful too. Like a drink of cool water on a 120 degree day."

7/23/24

- J.M, UT | EMSO Participant

"Our Group Leaders were absolutely amazing! I wish they were a part of our group and not just the leaders because I am going to miss meeting with them. Their story and ours had so many similarities and I could really relate to them. And they always give the best support and make me feel validated. I am really sad to see my time with them come to an end. Thank you for everything. Hugs, TJ"

5/29/24

- T.J., FL | EMSO Participant

"Curriculum continues to bring surprising breakthrough for us. Our Group Leaders are compassionate and insightful, and I appreciate that they open up about their own story."

5/15/24

- J.S., WA | EMSO Participant

"This week was insightful for me as it uncovered some historical issues that haunt me every day, except I failed to acknowledge it before this week."

4/30/24

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"Our Group Leaders did an outstanding job leading us through the course. I credit their leadership for resulting in all six of us who completed the EMSO course choosing to continue on in the Married For Life Program. Their honesty, compassion, and insight makes them naturals for leading the EMSO course. I feel we are off to an excellent start for our recovery."

4/3/24

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"Our leader's ability to love and understand everyone right where they are is such a gift allowing the process to take place, giving way for the Spirit to bring breakthrough. So grateful. "

3/21/24

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"This program is helping me by changing my thought process and how I handled things in the past. I feel like I have permission to share my feelings, thoughts and triggers."

3/5/24

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"The videos were great. Culturally, I really resonated with the couple's experience. It was an emotional one for me. When they sang, I cried."

2/22/24

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"Great circling back to trust and what that means for us all moving forward! So grateful for this course and for Affair Recovery, & our amazing leader. Time to keep going and moving forward now with a plan for healing and hope."

1/30/24

- K.C., TX | EMSO Participant

"The group leader has done a terrific job. It just makes me want to be a better husband and person."

1/22/24

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"The curriculum is written like it is telling our story. Our Group Leader is great. She has such positives responses to all of our messes. I thank AR for allowing my husband and I to take this course. I have seen him have more understanding of this horrible nightmare and how he has to be a part of the healing for himself, even if our marriage does not make it. We both are being more transparent than I thought would be possible. This is due to this helpful course. Thanks so much."

1/8/24

- C.S., OH | EMSO Participant

"The curriculum is well thought through. It speaks of a deep understanding of both the betrayed and the wayward spouse and the complicated emotions involved in the whole process of recovery."

1/8/24

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"I really appreciate our Group Leader's ability to keep a cheerful upbeat tone in an initial meeting where all of us were 6/10 or higher in anxiety. They managed to do this without, in my perception, trivialize, minimize, or invalidate anyone's sharing or experience."

12/20/23

- J.V., TX | EMSO Participant

"I appreciate the encouragement that our Group Leader gives throughout the meeting. I also appreciated the clarifying question they posed to one of the couples. It just gives more insight to how people are thinking."

12/20/23

- C.M., CA | EMSO Participant

"Completed week 13 and it has been such a blessing! I hate how I got to this point but the last 13 weeks have changed me in a better way than I could ever imagine. 13 weeks ago I had zero hope for our future, now since learning so many tools, I am now able too see our new life and new marriage together!"

12/20/23

- A.D., NM | EMSO Participant

"I signed up for the EMS Online 13 week course and started in December last year. I have been with my partner for 15 years although we had been as good as separated for the past 2-3 years. I was the unfaithful spouse for 10 years during the relationship and had come to view my partner with a negative lens as well as not feeling like I could plan with her in mind. We finally decided to try the online course after watching many YouTube videos from the team, as 15 years, 3 kids and an entire farm project were in the balance. I wish I had known about the course before any relationship, as it completely reset my wiring, someone was finally teaching me how to have a relationship. I learned about thoughts and feelings and how to tackle them, I learned how to feel empathy, forgiveness, truth in love and more. It was a spiritual journey and I now have the best relationship I have ever had and certainly the best moment in the 15 years of being together. I would recommend AR to anyone in crisis...absolutely, and really to just anyone in a relationship.... It's amazing, the structure of the 13 weeks takes you on an emotional rollercoaster and at times I felt like quitting, but thanks to my commitment contract and the knowledge that things were getting clearer, I continued and now have moved onto married life with our group as it's just such powerful work. We were in a terrible place before starting this course and now we are in a wonderful relationship together. "

3/17/23

- A., France | EMSO Participant

"Writing the "hurt letter" was a difficult but excellent exercise. Facing the pain I have caused and trying to understand it from my spouse's perspective and then having to see it written out on a piece of paper definitely moved my heart toward empathy for my spouse and healing for me. Thank you for this curriculum!"

11/28/22

- K.M., GA | EMSO Participant

"I love our group leader!! She's amazing!! She's so supportive, and so uplifting to every member in our group. I'll miss her, and talking with her each week. The 13 weeks have absolutely flown by. The EMSO course (and entire Affair Recovery website) has been more than I could have ever hoped for. Not only has it totally enriched my marriage, but it's given me a totally new perspective on every aspect of my life... the relationship with my kids, how I view relationships with other family members, friends, and most importantly, my relationship with my Heavenly Father. I repeated to my husband several times throughout the course that hurt couples shouldn't be the only people benefiting from this course, or website. Everything about Affair Recovery has been a blessing to be a part of this family. Thank you to Rick, the entire Affair Recovery crew for sharing your stories and wisdom, and all the spouses in the mentor videos for sharing your stories and heartbreak. Each one of you has been such a blessing to me, and now my entire life moving forward!! I'm so thankful that God led me to the website months ago!! I won't ever forget what y'all did for me during this stage of my healing journey. I'll always have reminders of being wounded, but will one day the wounds will become scars that can be touched. And those scars will prove where I've come from, how strong I've become, and who God made me to be."

11/21/22

- H., LA | EMSO Participant

"Affair recovery has been an absolute blessing. I am excited to continue with Married For Life. I am excited for the new opportunities ahead for not only my marriage but for me as an individual. Affair Recovery has helped present or reveal these opportunities. I cant thank everyone involved at Affair Recovery enough! Thank you!"

9/21/22

- C., WA | EMSO Participant

"Wonderful! Again, the curriculum and group leader and whole group have been life changing - this is well worth the time and effort!"

9/21/22

- A., WA | EMSO Participant

"Thank you so much for leading us through this course with love, encouragement, and understanding!! We feel beyond blessed to know you and to have you guys beside us as we navigated the most difficult time in our lives."

9/12/22

- G., CA | EMSO Participant

"I felt like the curriculum gave me the right amount of information about what to expect along with encouragement and hope (hope that I’m now having for the first time) that this mess and all my mixed up feeling, fears, and anger are normal and that there is possibly going to be a happy outcome. The leaders seemed to know just what to say and are very informative and empathetic. I feel very blessed to have them!"

8/8/22

- J.H., AR | EMSO Participant

"This has been 13 difficult weeks of introspection and hard work. I know its just the beginning, but we cant say enough positive things about the EMSO course. We've learned so much about ourselves and better ways to handle marital challenges. We are looking forward to Married for Life. Special thanks to our group leaders! "

7/5/22

- S., FL | EMSO Participant

"There were tears at the end of the meeting tonight as our EMS Online course has been completed. Our Group Leaders were incredible. We will miss them incredibly as we move on to Married for Life."

6/23/22

- M.M., FL | EMSO Participant

"Tonight was a great night, this week's curriculum was excellent. I feel so hopeful and inspired. I'm so thankful to have found AR. God bless you all for the work you're doing. Thank you to our group leader, he's the best!"

5/9/22

- D.S., NY | EMSO Participant

"What a difference in our marriage in the past 13 weeks. I truly understand what they mean when they say "pain with a purpose" and how the pain being transformed is not being transmitted like it was 13 weeks ago. We loved our Group Leaders and how they guided us through the course."

5/2/22

- M.A., MD | EMSO Participant

"The letter writing exercise is something that I needed to help understand the pain and hurt my wife was feeling because of my betrayal. It help me “get it” a little more. It’s a step to truly understanding how I have devastated my wife. Please keep this lesson where it is. I don’t think it would be beneficial earlier in the recover process."

4/25/22

- S.M., CO | EMSO Participant

"This week was the most needed lesson. The lesson forced both sides to have to look at each and see the effects instead of being wrapped up in their own pain. To finally feel understood is huge. Thank you!"

4/11/22

- G.M., CO | EMSO Participant

"Every week we go through just seems to bring me one step closer to recovery and brings more tools to the table to make the task at hand easier to work on...God bless you all for everything you do and for providing such an amazing service to all of the broken hearted and providing them a safe place to come and guide them in mending those broken hearts for not just the betrayed but also the unfaithful. Thank You."

4/11/22

- J.S., IN | EMSO Participant

"This was a good week. While forgiveness isn’t an easy topic, it was eye opening to see all the types of forgiveness and the ways that it can help set me free, now and in the future….when the time comes and I’m ready to forgive. Thank You"

4/4/22

- J.C., TX | EMSO Participant

"I am thankful to have been afforded the tools necessary to navigate my trauma involving infidelity. Although reconciliation remains uncertain, I from a personal standing have grown in many ways and have found my voice. God led me to your website in my time of dire need. I do not believe in coincidence. Thank you for using the voices and experiences of those that came before us. Having a Group Leader that understands the journey was imperative. Blessings."

4/4/22

- L.C., PA | EMSO Participant

"Our Group Leader was exceptional. She showed kindness and empathy throughout the course. She took an interest in each of the participants and would often pray for them individually at the end of each class. On more than one occasion, the ladies in the group reached out to her for support and each time, she showed up for us with words of encouragement and the wisdom to help us get through the tough moments. We are both so grateful to have been a part of her class and that our lives were touched by both her and AR."

4/4/22

- H.P., FL | EMSO Participant

"I adore our group leaders. They inspire me and my husband and give us hope. This week was hard but I feel that the curriculum was excellent for developing empathy. I think my husband finally feels like I do get it. And maybe this could be a turning point for us! Thank you so much for this!"

3/28/22

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"The curriculum was absolutely difficult, but necessary. It was heart breaking to share and hear other's stories, but made me feel like my husband and I aren’t alone in our journey and pain. "

3/28/22

- C.C., WA | EMSO Participant

"This week for me, as the betrayed spouse, was as if someone came and removed 10lbs of bricks off of my back. Just know that my spouse is beginning to understand what this has been like for me, is a gift I'm so thankful for."

3/28/22

- E.A., MD | EMSO Participant

"Our group leader has been wonderful throughout this process. It was so comforting to know she knew what we were all feeling and experiencing. Overall, we are so grateful to have found A/R. We are already sharing with others what an incredible program this is. Our marriage and my mental and emotional well being were all in a desperate state when God led me to the A/R website. We feel blessed, hopeful and more healed. Maybe one day we can reach out and give back. It would feel good to help others and give them hope. We look forward to the MFL experience. God bless you all!"

3/7/22

- A., Guam | EMSO Participant

"I enjoyed how well our Group Leader kept us all on track and encouraged us at the same time. Because of their willingness to lead us and this course I have hope in our future for the first time."

3/7/22

- T.B., MI | EMSO Participant

"Not knowing how things would go for the 1st time, I left feeling really good and excited for the next 13 weeks. I felt very safe and could feel the empathy from our leaders through the phone."

2/7/22

- E.A., MD | EMSO Participant

"Hearing the group leader's story makes you feel even more comfortable."

2/7/22

- J.C., TX | EMSO Participant

"This was such an enlightening week of material. Made a huge difference. My reality didn’t change, but my perspective did and I feel so much better!"

1/31/22

- J., CO | EMSO Participant

"Hearing the stories from both spouses of other couples was transformational for my shame as the unfaithful spouse. The session was moderated very well. She’s a great example of empathy for me as well. 10/10!"

1/18/22

- M.C., GA | EMSO Participant

"The material is always so good! It's a lot to take in and will only be as effective as the quality of time and concentration that you give it. I'm finding that I go back and re-read many parts of chapters that we've already covered. I so appreciate our group, our leaders, and each chapter we cover. I really don't want this to end! Looking forward to Married For Life"

11/22/21

- J.M., VA | EMSO Participant

"The curriculum for this week was great. I had alot of realizations from this week & the material helped me to gain those along with the video. I gained some great techniques to use when I feel angry which I haven't had to use yet but will keep at the forefront of my mind. Thank you!"

11/15/21

- J., Texas | EMSO Participant

11/15/21

- J., Texas | EMSO Participant

"The material for week 4 was great. It really helped provide me with tools I can utilize & I honestly feel like even after completing this course I will refer back to the tools in the book because so many of them can be utilized in life even unrelated to affairs or betrayal. Our group leader is awesome! He gives great tools & builds on what the current week's material is about based on his own experiences & reiterates the current weeks material. He gives off a great energy & true empathy. Thank you so much AR team."

11/8/21

- J., Texas | EMSO Participant

"Our Group Leader does an excellent job managing the group and getting everybody to speak and open out. These sessions have been excellent for me in gaining new tools to help me deal with various aspects of empathy, humility and learning to be vulnerable."

11/1/21

- J.J., CA | EMSO Participant

"This was out final week with our Sherpa [Group Leader]. He was so gentle and kind over the past 13 weeks. We were fortunate to have him guide us. Now onto our self guided portion. We feel well prepared because of [his] leadership. "

11/1/21

- Z., Georgia | EMSO Participant

"What an incredible exercise. It was so healing to be seen first by the material/videos, and then even more importantly by my husband."

10/25/21

- C.W., CO | EMSO Participant

"Great call, great course, and great host. We learned a lot and made some new friends for life. Great people. Together I believe we can help each other get over the mountain to a blissful life together. Thank you!!"

9/7/21

- E.M., VA | EMSO Participant

"This is one of the richest curriculums in the EMSO program. As the unfaithful, you can imagine how grateful I am about forgiveness. What also struck me is the fact that I also hold resentment towards others and I need to forgive the people in order to let go of the resentments. Thank you Rick for a rich curriculum. Our group leader was also fantastic!"

8/30/21

- F.W., UK | EMSO Participant

"We've enjoyed AR so much - and it has given us so many helpful tools to use on this long journey of recovery! It gives us hope that even after an affair not all is lost."

8/9/21

- S.S., OR | EMSO Participant

"I did the EMS online course. I have been married for 22 years and most of that duration my Husband has been involved in some sort of infidelity; be it porn, massage parlors, meeting other women, then an affair. My husband found Affair Recovery in his search for healing. He did another course and really wanted to do a couple's course. I was very doubtful to begin with. Over the 13 weeks of this course I have had many highs and lows but with that has come growth and change. I have come to see that my husband is capable of change and can love me in ways I was not capable of seeing. I have learned how to let my guard down and allow God to work in our lives and marriage. The changes we have made in our daily lives are: communication is open and honest, time spent is quality time together, we go to bed nearly every night together, we do pillow talk, hold each other, bless each other goodnight, we are aware of what the other has on during the day, we listen with not just our ears but our hearts too. We are choosing our marriage and turning to God. No matter what happens I know God loves us both and all things are possible to those who love and trust in our Lord and Savior. "

8/6/21

- C. Australia | EMSO Participant

"I just completed the EMSO course with my betrayed husband. For me, the course helped me deal with baggage I brought into my marriage — some of it I was aware of, some was unknown. This course requires that you are honest with yourself, even when it hurts and you REALLY don't want to. The time frame differs each week. Some weeks, there are five hours of video if you choose to watch the extra material too. And then, there are readings and questions to answer. You connect with the group and can mirror your own experiences and feelings in them. Rick and Hope-Now has taught me so many things about myself I never would have figured out on my own. I have hope for the future now."

6/28/21

- C., Denmark | EMSO Participant

"My husband and I just finished EMS Online. D-Day was last December, and ever since then we have started our journey of healing with the help of Affair Recovery — first with the seven-day bootcamp and later with EMSO. I was not sure I wanted to try EMSO because I could not imagine sharing the most painful thing that ever happened to me with complete strangers, when I find it impossible to talk about our story with anyone except our counselor. I am so thankful that my husband convinced me to give EMSO a try. I can honestly say that we are already in a much better place now than we were 13 weeks ago, and that the people who were strangers at the beginning have now become essential to us in our healing. I am happy to say that we have all decided to continue with the Married for Life program. EMSO is amazing; it helped us get through the first incredibly painful weeks after learning about the infidelity. We both learned valuable lessons about love, communication, marriage and how to deal with the trauma of infidelity. We learned lessons that are essential for healthy relationships (not only marriage), which we know will be helpful to our individual recovery. I would definitely recommend both Affair Recovery courses to others. We found an incredible amount of hope in the mentor videos. Just seeing how others who have already walked this path share that the pain and hard work are worth it, and that we can find a much better marriage on the other side, encouraged us the past few months. "

6/4/21

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"I just finished EMS Online a few days ago and those 13 weeks ran so fast. It would have been impossible for me to move forward if it weren’t for Affair Recovery’s help. I truly think that God was taking care of me when I started to look for the right help on the web. I come from a family in which divorces and infidelity were common practice. They were not perceived as good things, but they were certainly natural. I grew up learning that attachment was a risk rather than a benefit. I truly thought that loving someone just meant to be together and provide support and company. After 30 years of marriage, my usual infidelities throughout my marriage started to haunt me. All of the lies that come along with a double life started to block my capacity to freely talk about me, my life and my problems. The marriage had fallen apart. And then, because of my nonattachment conduct, I decided it was time to divorce, which had been in my plans for many years. Only then did I decide to tell my wife about my infidelity, as a gift for her, so she would understand why I have failed and not feel bad about her part in our marriage. God was certainly there with us that day because instead of divorcing, we started this journey of understanding and working toward another opportunity for us and our many kids. I wish we would have gone through EMS Online before we got married. We would have avoided so much pain and used so much of the time we have already wasted. We learned how to communicate with deepness, about empathy and unconditional love, how to manage anger and triggers, and how much hope there is when you are honest and committed to each other. Your course should be mandatory for couples before they get married, and it is a blessing for those, like myself, that were in desperate need of help. Thank you, God, for putting Affair Recovery on my path."

6/4/21

- R., Argentina | EMSO Participant

"We loved our group leaders. They were caring, knowledgeable, supportive and everything we could have asked for in a mentor during a difficult passage in our lives. Thank you from the bottom of my heart."

5/13/21

- S.K., IL | EMSO Participant

"As hard as some of the topics have been, it has helped us tremendously and is worth all the effort, emotionally and physically. Our Group Leaders have been awesome and inspiring. It’s good to put 13 weeks behind us and move forward. Thanks for being there and praying for us!"

5/13/21

- M.D., CO | EMSO Participant

"I have “enjoyed” this course immensely. It has taught me so much about myself, my relationship with my husband, and life with him. Many, many thanks to Affair Recovery for this wonderful course!"

5/13/21

- S.F., MD | EMSO Participant

"In the fall of 2019, Brad and I were celebrating our 24th wedding anniversary. Shortly after, Brad began a five-month emotional affair with his stepsister. When I discovered what he was doing, I was ruined. I died inside. I never was going to recover from this. I moved out because I needed time to get better and heal. The morning after I left, Brad sent a link from Affair Recovery. Later that night, we watched our first video together. We realized there were reasons for our pain and other people experienced it too. We heard words such as “triggers” and “flooding” for the first time, and I knew what was happening to me was a real thing. As we neared the end of the First Steps Bootcamp, we talked about EMS Online. We didn’t know whether we should do it or could afford it. We are both self-employed and were affected by COVID-19 financially. Thankfully, we applied for a scholarship and were accepted. As we watched more videos, we started to mend in a healthy way. At first, EMSO was overwhelming. It was also very intense and in-depth. We were comfortable with our team leader and our group. I have learned so much from this course. I would highly recommend couples seek help from Affair Recovery and all the courses it has to offer. Every day, there was a light at the end of the tunnel and that light is still getting brighter for us. We could not have recovered without Affair Recovery and EMSO. "

4/19/21

- Jenny, Michigan | EMSO Participant

"Our Group Leaders both facilitated and contributed to this week’s session in a very impactful and empathetic way. The letters read by all participants were insightful. I can see the work that is being done! So glad our friend signed us up for this. I was “ugh” at first but now I’m thankful!"

3/29/21

- L.D., IL | EMSO Participant

"My husband and I just finished the EMSO course. I am the unfaithful wife and decided to suggest the course six months post D-Day. I was desperate and lost. My husband agreed to the course. I am so glad he did. This course taught me so much. It was so helpful in understanding how important communication and empathy are in this type of situation. The weeks that deal with the unfaithful spouses practicing empathy and learning how to really understand how their betrayed spouse might be feeling were especially helpful. The other couples on the weekly phone calls were extremely important in our healing. It’s incredible how connecting with other couples who are going through a similar hell that you’re going through is so pivotal in this journey. I remember in our early days after D-Day feeling SO HOPELESS. I would log in to Affair Recovery and read the EMSO reviews over and over again. It gave me hope in those absolutely heart-crushing days. Please really consider taking the EMSO course. I was scared when the course began, but you become so close to these other couples and it gets to where you look forward to those weekly phone calls. My husband and I are doing so much better just since these last 13 weeks have ended. I am so thankful for Affair Recovery. "

3/23/21

- L. Alabama | EMSO Participant

"I would like to say thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your ministry and the materials you have provided as part of EMSO and Married for Life. We, all five couples that started EMSO, have just completed the Married for Life 52-week course. We are now deciding what to study next as a group, as we so value the relationship we have together as couples. With God, with your materials and with each other, we have saved our marriages. I don't know how often all five couples survive intact 18 months after starting the EMSO course, but we are all very thankful. We are talking about attending a marriage conference in the future, where we all attend in-person together. I am hopeful that all five couples will have long marriages with the work we have put in. "

3/23/21

- B. Minnesota | EMSO Participant

"It's nice to hear others who are going through what you are - and how they are handling it."

3/15/21

- BB, TX | EMSO Participant

"The personal stories help the process. It’s necessary for healing."

3/15/21

- RC, CA | EMSO Participant

"I'm a betrayed man married to my spouse for 15 years. After learning of my wife's affair, I was totally incapacitated, shattered pieces on the ground. I was determined to survive but without any belief that recovery was possible. Today, I am nearly one year out from D-Day and can say with certainty we wouldn't be here without EMSO — it was invaluable. The resources gave me something to hold on to when I found myself "swimming underwater in the dark." Infidelity involves both trauma and death for the betrayed. Surviving and healing the trauma is necessary in order to grieve the death of yourself, and then comes the hard work of reestablishing a loving bond with the "tiger that mauled you." It requires a ton of courage, tenacity and endurance, but it's worth it. Hang in there people, you can get bitter or get better. This is an opportunity to transform your life into the one you've always wanted. Affair Recovery WILL help you get there. "

3/15/21

- D.B. | EMSO Participant

"We completed our 13-week study this evening. I must say that our group leader was wonderful and our mentor was great. I got so much out of this course and began on Week 1 thinking it would be a waste of time. Thanks to AR for putting this program together. It has done wonders for me and our marriage....and our lives! God Bless."

3/10/21

- J, TX | EMSO Participant

"As this was our last group session we were sad but know how much we have gained in our recovery process. Our group leader and mentor were fabulous. Our group is continuing on in Married for Life. Thank you for saving our marriage."

3/10/21

- D. TX | EMSO Participant

"I completed the EMS online course. At first I was very apprehensive about it, knowing that it was a different cultural experience and I may be subject to 13 weeks of absorbing blame and accepting fault. I must admit that there is a high level of accepting responsibility for the wrongs that you would have done to someone who you made a vow to. However, each phase of the program allows you to contextualize the responsibility that you are taking. The greatest benefit for me was the ability to retrace my own personal history and understand the factors that would have led to me making poor decisions. The fact that spirituality is at the core of it will keep any believer in check, especially me who had multiple affairs. I have already recommended this course to many folks in my area and I believe it can help us look at infidelity through a different lens."

2/23/21

- D | EMSO Participant

"Thank you for everything, your course has given us a chance to work through things, we have lots of work to do, but you have laid the path for a chance at reconciliation that I surely did not think was possible 13 weeks ago."

2/17/21

- G. Canada | EMSO Participant

"Thank you very much for the help. We did not miss a single session. It was hard, but great. The facilitators were also very good! All the best from both of us!"

2/15/21

- T.S. | EMSO Participant

"I am the betrayed spouse dealing with a history of repeated infidelities. The most recent included an emotional, physical, and sexual affair which led me to this course. Lessons 6 & 8 on empathy helped me a lot...I would definitely recommend this course to others that are struggling. It is best to be among others that can understand where you are and what you are going through."

1/26/21

- M. Michigan | EMSO Participant

"Thank you to my Group Leader, for everything. We would not be where we are without you and this program. I can't believe how different things are today from the beginning of the course. The first few weeks were rough but having you and the group to lean on kept the progress moving forward. Thank you so much!"

1/25/21

- K.G., OH | EMSO Participant

"Two years after our second D-Day (discovery of infidelity), we still found ourselves disconnecting and struggling to find the proper style of support. My partner was an unfaithful who had gone through Hope For Healing at my request. That got us involved in the AR community and was the first real resource hub we found targeted to our problems. Aside from that, we had on-and-off relationships with a couple of different therapists who were in way over their heads as generalists unfamiliar with the heightened situation infidelity brings. We both agreed we needed some form of 'specialist' and that we were still pretending things were better in our relationship. We weren't fully healed; we were simply avoiding it because finding the right resources were hard. I wish I would've known how logical the course information was, which made it really applicable to improving our daily interactions with each other. Despite all the heightened emotions, AR really hones in on just that next step closer to safety between the two of you. If we'd known that, we probably would've jumped into EMSO much sooner without stalling our recovery for almost a year. As a betrayed partner, I learned more about myself, my relationship patterns, and my coping mechanisms. Some were unhelpful to our healing, even though in a 'fair' world, my partner should have been the one to fix everything. The world isn't fair, and at the end of the day, I learned how much I had to give to recovery to move past the pain. I was still here because I did ultimately want to reconcile if the change could occur. However, it didn't occur to me that I was cultivating an environment that wouldn't allow that. This allowed me to watch my partner step up, be vulnerable, do the work, and take the personal responsibility I was looking for. Week after week, I saw the effort and vulnerability being put in from his end as well. We learned that relapse doesn't just mean another sexual occurrence. It can mean the beginning of disconnect between us again; it can be reverting to behaviors that were present leading into infidelity, it could be entertaining high-risk situations. We learned how to protect each other from our flaws and have realistic expectations of continuing a healthier long-term commitment. I'd absolutely recommend AR, and it's courses to anybody going through this very specific, debilitating, and isolating issue. Professionalism, care, and discretion are all present backed by simple logic and psychology that hits the mark. If you're spinning your wheels looking for somewhere to get started, just start here. Much of the material can be religious, as are most AR members. We weren't, but that didn't stop us from growing, healing, and getting value from being part of the community. If you are into faith, then that is just going to be a bonus for you. The pain does subside, but the effort is required. We'd want you to have hope that, as cliche, as it sounds, things do get better. Although it's awkward to put a positive spin on these situations, you can and likely will develop a new bond that is 1000% better than your previous relationship together. You got this. Know that you're normal when you're struggling with your new reality. Your world has shattered, but you could just end up rebuilding it even better, following the past that is safest for everyone involved. Cheers to your own healing adventure. "

1/19/21

- M. Canada | EMSO Participant

"Very happy with the course. Exactly what my husband and I needed to keep moving forward. Thank you staff at AR for everything!!!"

1/13/21

- A. Wyoming | EMSO Participant

"My husband and I have been married for fifty years. It was almost two years ago that he let it slip out that he had slept with a prostitute five years into our marriage. My husband trickled out two additional affairs over the following five months. I was shocked and devastated, not only by my husband’s betrayals but more so by his 44 years of deception. We spoke to our pastor, attended a week-long marriage intensive, and saw a local counselor. None of these avenues were helpful because the actual infidelity was not addressed. Desperate for guidance on what to do to save our marriage, we signed up for an EMS Online course that started in September 2020. The group environment was easier to participate in than we thought it would be. I love the fact that the course is faith based and that it directly addresses infidelity. I did not think that my unfaithful husband would ever understand how hurt I was by his betrayals. However, the lessons in the EMS Online workbook flowed in such a way that I believe my husband came to see the destruction that his choices caused. The recovery process is work, but healing is possible. This course has been a marriage saver for us! I believe it could be a marriage saver for others whose marriage is in crisis due to infidelity."

12/30/20

- R. North Carolina | EMSO Participant

"This course and our group leaders have been essential these last 13 weeks. God led me to Affair Recovery within a day or two of our first D day, and without it I might not have survived the second. Thank you for our hope for the future."

12/14/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"I was so down going into this call...thinking how in the world can anyone even forgive or move forward with a spouse that has done the unspeakable and this is just got to be a hoax...this call really was a turning point for me and us and thank you! I have a sense of hope I have never had"

12/11/20

- A.M., MN | EMSO Participant

"This 13 week course has flown by! We have learned SO much, wish we’d had this info years ago. Our group leader has done a wonderful job as a leader and sharing with the group some other resources as well as personal experiences."

12/11/20

- W. Florida | EMSO Participant

"Our group leader was a fabulous facilitator! We were blessed to have his consistent, warm responses that made us all feel valued and heard. This was a great experience and I'm so grateful for our leader, the curriculum, and our group! Thanks!"

12/11/20

- C. Florida | EMSO Participant

"After being devastated by the disclosure of my husband’s 3 month emotional affair, I prayed and trusted God for guidance. I was broken and confused but felt compelled to show my husband grace and a chance to prove himself and possibly save what was left of our marriage. I started a desperate online search- which landed me on the Affair Recovery website. On the AR website we both found HOPE and answers to all our immediate questions, professional help- and the necessary guidance we needed to move into the right direction to save our marriage. The AR online library has resources available in the form of Q&As, short 8-10min videos (with helpful tips and discussions), longer videos (that sheds in-depth, professional light on each topic), individual and couples online courses, and forums for the betrayed-as well as the unfaithful spouses. We first enrolled and did the online Bootcamp which helped us get through the initial stages. Then we both enrolled in the individual courses, Hope for Healing and Harbouring Hope, and it was during this course I started experiencing a huge change in my husband defensiveness, and I found the support and practical help I needed to get me focused again. After our individual courses we immediately enrolled in the EMS Online course for couples and we finally reached a stage where my husband could fully disclose of his lifelong porn and sex addiction, and where I had the necessary emotional support to deal with the obliterating impact. We are due to start the Married for Life group meetings next week and are looking forward to the support and growth that will bring about. Affair Recovery has been a beacon of light during the darkest time in our lives and without their help and support we would not have had the help to survive the deep and devastating effects of betrayal."

11/25/20

- L. Australia | EMSO Participant

"This was the last week of the course. I cannot begin to express how great our group leaders have been. It has been a great pleasure and honor to be in this course. The course material has been fantastic, and I am sure I will be referencing the material often for personal growth and reflection. Thank you."

11/24/20

- J.B./Oklahoma | EMSO Participant

"EMS Online saved our marriage. I was going to leave and was searching for divorce lawyers when an Affair Recovery video appeared in my feed. Before then I had no clue that reconciliation was an option after an affair. I am not totally healed yet but I have hope and we have been equipped with tools to help us as we work on reconciliation."

11/24/20

- P.J./Canada | EMSO Participant

"I would like to comment on the course as a whole. I am the unfaithful spouse and today on the call my spouse said that they had started the course as a last ditch effort before divorce, but they now see hope for our marriage. We are continuing with Married for Life and I am grateful not only for EMSO and all that it has taught us about how to recover from infidelity, but that it also provides us with materials on how to rebuild a solid marriage and the tools to move forward. I cannot count how many times I have thanked God for Affair Recovery over the past 13 weeks."

11/5/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"Really sad the 13 weeks has come to an end. Although the curriculum requires a lot of application and facing difficult and courageous decisions, it has also been very beneficial to the growth and healing process. I have great appreciation for our group leader and his wife for allowing him to share his story and be a part of everyone's healing process. Everyone in our group is going to continue with married for life, and so looking forward to growing together. Bless you AR for doing what God has called you to do. This week summed up the 13 weeks very well."

11/5/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"I completed EMS Online with my wife (thank God we're still married). I'm the unfaithful partner. We also finished the Bootcamp in the weeks leading up to EMS Online, which was amazing and highly recommended. There is hope. Please push through the pain and uncomfortable discovery. Ask God for help. And follow the curriculum's guidance. You can heal."

9/29/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"What can I say about a community of fellow sojourners like the ones I found at Affair Recovery? They were and are a gift from God, an oasis of understanding and support amidst the agonizing tears, pain, and heartache of my husband's second affair. I found myself drowning in my sorrow and felt so lost and directionless, having great difficulty holding it together some days after discovery. I found Affair Recovery by doing an internet search and up popped Samuel and his words of wisdom, comfort and insight. My husband and I watched Samuel and others from AR during the second winter after discovery. The first year we were separated as he was still with the affair partner.. Unfortunately my husband did not agree with Samuel and others on many issues. We then tried a Boot camp together which then led to doing an EMSO the winter and spring of 2020. The material and group sessions were exactly what I needed to gain the healing in my own life that I longed for. I am, of course, still on that healing journey. Our group still meets every other week for the follow up with the Married For Life sessions. It is the connection with people who have experienced similar heartache and emotional upheaval that was so helpful for me. Although my husband participated in the sessions and did the lessons, which I am grateful for, he has not owned his actions and has not sought out any help on his own. This makes me very sad, but it does not feel life threatening like it had earlier on thanks to the wonderfully insightful information I have received from Affair Recovery. I have come to realize that I can only work on my own healing and leave my husband in the hands of the Lord. The library of videos and blogs continue to speak to my heart and aid me on my healing journey. The words thank you do not even come close to expressing my gratitude to the people at Affair Recovery. Many times I have recommended them to others and will continue to do so."

9/29/20

- K. Texas | EMSO Participant

"I took the 13-week online course for couples to heal after Infidelity and to be honest I don't think my wife and I would be together if not for this course. The shock of discover that my wife was having an emotional online affair (sexting as well) with her counselor shook my world and hers as well. We had no idea where to start and immediately googled where we could seek help from. It was a blessing that Affair Recovery was high on the list of options. Once we opened the website and read the information, we immediately completed the 7-day Bootcamp (free) and soon after we signed up for the 13-week course. As the betrayed spouse I was hesitant and almost resistant to enter any type of program, but at the end of the day I wanted to salvage my marriage or at the very least find out why my wife entered into an affair. The lessons provided me with a step by step guide with how to navigate the ugly truth about affairs. I had no idea prior to the course about flooding, triggers, intrusive thoughts, empathy and that there was a way forward after an affair. Affair Recovery provided hope where I thought there was none. Along the way I did gain understanding as to why my wife entered into her affair. I am better off as a person and husband in taking the course. It forced or nudged me to look at myself and the role I play/played in the marriage. In many ways it brought my wife and I closer together and for this I am grateful to Rick and all the people at Affair Recovery. We just finished the course (August 2020) and we are not out of the woods at all. One thing I learned from Affair Recovery is that there are no quick fixes and that it will take time for the marriage to heal. Also, there will be pain but if we put in the effort our marriage will be stronger than it was before the affair. I truly believe this even though there are still some very difficult days and moments. The course definitely has taught me how to deal with those difficult days and moments in a much safer manner. It's not a 'club' any of us want to belong to but if you find yourself in this 'club', I can confidently say Affair Recovery is the place you want to land and land in as quickly as possible."

9/29/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"My wife and I just completed EMSO and found the structure, curriculum, and exercises to be extremely helpful. Painful, but helpful. I have a completely different outlook on life and the world. Working within our small group and hearing the encouragement and testimony of our mentors has given us hope and provided a path forward."

9/29/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"This group has changed our lives! From the non-judgemental, open, encouraging, atmosphere that you all have created by rules such as listening (not giving advice), the support you supply through conversations, the lessons and all the resources. You all give guidance on how to change a horrible situation into one of positive change, by realizing that we are not alone and that there is amazing support available through groups like Affair Recovery. Our group leader was a constant guiding light with a positive demeanor that set the group up for tremendous forward progress. Thank you!"

9/23/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"I really feel understood in this group. And it definitely gives me perspective and I'm better able to see where I go wrong. I feel like I love more deeply now. And that's a wonderful blessing."

9/23/20

- S. Florida | EMSO Participant

"I believe for us this has been the best and most effective and efficient way to learn and recover. I don't believe we would have ever made these strides with a couple’s therapist. I was ambivalent when I started and now I am hopeful. Group leader was absolutely wonderful with all of us. So compassionate and open. I'm so thankful he was assigned to our group. His input and experiences were so helpful. He was kind, gentle and gracious with all of us making us all feel comfortable. He gets 5 stars from us. Thanks so much."

9/14/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"I was very happy that it sounds like there is another unfaithful female in our group- I have been praying that I would not be the only one. Not for my sake but for the sake of my husband, so that he didn’t feel like an anomaly."

8/17/20

- S. NE | EMSO Participant

"For some reason I find the EMSO to be a very "safe space" for me. It is heartbreaking hearing people grieve over the betrayal, but somehow I know that we can be there for one another. Great way to start the course, Our group leader did well - great job. I am looking forward to the next 13 weeks, although I know there will be many hard times as well. Thank you."

8/17/20

- M. Australia | EMSO Participant

"Our group leader has been exceptional. She incorporates her experiences and great supportive information and relates it to each participants' circumstances and issues. My wife and I have found the EMSO program very supportive and helpful. We are both planning on continuing on with Harboring Hope and Hope for Healing. Thank you for creating this program and online format. It has definitely increased the probability of my wife and I staying married and having a better and stronger marriage than before the discovery of my betrayals. My wife and I also are thankful for the religious themes and God based references. "

7/20/20

- M. MI | EMSO Participant

"Great experience for the past 13 weeks - we have really learned a lot in the last three months. I will highly recommend this course to others. We also appreciated our group leader's input each week - she made it very comfortable for everyone in a very uncomfortable situation (marital infidelity). She did a great job!"

7/20/20

- S. MI | EMSO Participant

"During week 12, I struggled to think of ways I was not intimate with my spouse & I realized it was mostly physical. I liked how I had to think of things that first attracted me to my spouse and things that still make him a good catch. Those things actually brought a smile to my face. It was nice to have a perspective to see my spouse as a person again by focusing on his positive attributes and not focusing on the negative. I realized my biggest battle with intimacy were the intrusive thoughts. Also the hug, which I thought would be awkward was actually surprisingly refreshing, comforting, secure, warm and satisfying. We want to make it a point to hold each other like that more consistently. I loved this week. Every time I think that there’s a topic I understand, Rick puts a spin on it & there’s always something to learn."

7/20/20

- T. Florida | EMSO Participant

"Curriculum was very necessary for my marriage - my husband and I both got a lot out of it."

7/14/20

- S. MI | EMSO Participant

"The curriculum & videos are excellent! I feel God is really working a miracle in transforming us & our relationship thru this process. We’re not perfect but growing. "

7/8/20

- B., California | EMSO Participant

"Very intense and very emotional week, but definitely took one GIANT step forward with this exercise. If you’re willing to change and work hard on your marriage, this week can be life changing. It was for us. Grateful for affair recovery and we both agree we would highly recommend it to any couple. Thank you for helping to change my ambivalence."

6/9/20

- N. North Carolina | EMSO Participant

"The curriculum, videos and links were all very helpful and relevant and I continue to be impressed with the “realness” of what I’m hearing and reading! I’m so glad to have found AR!! Group leader is doing a fantastic job!"

6/8/20

- D. VA | EMSO Participant

"The curriculum this week was great, by far better than anything I’ve seen through counseling. Our group leader is wonderful."

6/3/20

- A. Ohio | EMSO Participant

"The curriculum for week 1 provided a lot of insight for me in this situation. It gave me a more positive outlook in overcoming the issues that my marriage face. In my view the group leader did an excellent job in facilitating the involvement of all participants in the group. She also exerted effort to try to relate to each person during the session. "

5/19/20

- W. Florida | EMSO Participant

"I thought the group was well done. The curriculum far exceeds my expectations. I’m glad this is available online because nothing even close to this is available where I live. Thank you."

5/19/20

- A. Ohio | EMSO Participant

"I appreciate all of the course content, and our Group Leader's feedback/support throughout this difficult 13 weeks. I also appreciate the 52 extra week content to help us continue to move forward with our healing. I am very grateful for Affair Recovery because I would be completely lost and not where I am at right now, without you. Thank you all!"

5/17/20

- Y - Ont | EMSO Participant

"I had a lot of anxiety going into this first session, so I really appreciated the calm, deliberate pace and establishment of a clear structure and expectations. I started with an anxiety level of 7 and ended more at a 3. I'll look forward to less formal, more substantive sessions in coming weeks, but this was just what I needed in a first session. Thank you!"

5/1/20

- C. Oregon | EMSO Participant

"(Anger Management) So much mind blowing and helpful information in this weeks lesson. It was a lot to take in and process. It will be a chapter that I will have to go back to numerous times as life goes on and hopefully can teach it to our children. This should be taught with or without recovering from an affair. Very very grateful to have this in my tool belt. "

4/29/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"I expected the call to be awkward, possibly having issues with people taking over each other; however, the call was so smooth! We each had sufficient time to share and I appreciated how our leader provided comments back and gave us hope that our concerns would be addressed throughout this program. I’m really looking forward to the next 13-weeks - even more so after this call. I can tell the leader has experience that will help this be even more successful. Thank you!"

4/29/20

- Anonymous | EMSO Participant

"The last week's curriculum did a great job tying the last 12 weeks together. My husband was ambivalent and admits now that he was going to leave our marriage for his AP. Affair recovery saved my marriage and it all started with the free boot camp. Amazing curriculum, amazing program. Thank you from the bottom of my heart."

4/6/20

- C. ID | EMSO Participant

"I loved this week's curriculum and discussion. It was very eye opening and beyond helpful. I wish I would have had that type of information early in marriage or when working through troubles over time. I even told our group that all week I thought about how Rick and the team should create another site/course for marriage before affair. Such as for those planning to get married, newlyweds and just anyone working through difficult times in marriage. I would recommend it to everyone I know! My husband and I had done a course through the Gottman institute a few years ago pre infidelity but it never really stuck with us but this made an impact and spoke to us both. And the format of the EMSO is so helpful and helps start habits and stick with it too! Thank you for this special week!"

3/10/20

- C. Colorado | EMSO Participant

"This week’s exercise was really powerful. I’ve told my husband so many times that if he could feel how I felt, he would be a lot more sensitive. I’m realizing now that if I could feel how he’s feeling when he is expressing regret and disappointment in himself related to his cheating, that would help me really believe him and move forward. I feel like this exercise helped us in trying to understand the other’s heart. Also, the group leader is really caring and loving. "

3/10/20

- L. New York | EMSO Participant

"So thankful that we took this course. It has greatly improved our communication! So much work still to be done, look forward to continued healing of ourselves and our marriage! A big Thank you to our Group Leader!!! Your encouragement, wisdom, and kindness will always be appreciated!! Blessings!!!"

3/3/20

- K. Arizona | EMSO Participant

"This [Week 6] exercise was really powerful. I’ve told my husband so many times that if he could feel how I felt, he would be a lot more sensitive. I’m realizing now that if I could feel how he’s feeling when he is expressing regret and disappointment in himself related to his cheating, that would help me really believe him and move forward. I feel like this exercise helped us in trying to understand the other’s heart."

2/18/20

- L. New York | EMSO Participant

"This is the best thing we could have ever done for our relationship following infidelity. I don't know that we would make it without EMS Online. I now have hope."

2/18/20

- R. South Carolina | EMSO Participant

"Learning about the 2 different types of forgiveness, how it is actually for the person forgiving and how it is a vital part of recovery to reach the point of the ability to forgive was very valuable information. [Week 9's] chapter was very eye opening and thought provoking. Our group leader was great, as always. She is very knowledgeable and understanding to our needs. She is such a blessing."

2/7/20

- R. IN | EMSO Participant

"Going through the EMS Online course was so integral to jump starting our healing journey. It provided tools that have helped us communicate better and develop more empathy for one another. This is the 1st time my husband finally gets the trauma betrayal causes. Our leaders were wonderful, gracious, and encouraging throughout the entire course. Thank you for giving back and helping others "

2/7/20

- J. NJ | EMSO Participant

"I never thought I could forgive my husband, I planned on attending EMS Online to say I tried something before getting a divorce. Instead we have transformed our marriage and intimacy to levels I never knew were possible and we had a strong marriage before the infidelity. I am so grateful we found Affair Recovery."

4/5/19

- G. IL | EMSO Participant

"This course saved my marriage, but even more importantly, saved my sanity, self-esteem, and health. Before it, I had lost hope and was trying to recover alone and heartbroken, second-guessing my sense of reality. Now I see how much I have in common with others, and also see a common goal that we as a couple are committed to. "

4/5/19

- S. Switzerland | EMSO Participant

"I have just completed EMS Online with my husband. Before undertaking the 13 week course of late-night calls (European time!) we were suffering so badly from the trauma of my affair that I was sure our marriage would inevitably collapse. There was constant anger and flooding and we were totally rudderless. The course has had an immense impact: I have learned a lot about why I acted out and that is very important to me. My husband has gotten a serious grip on his anger and as a result we are able to communicate reasonably and in a productive and loving way that leads us to believe we can eventually make it out of this mire. There were two other unfaithful women in our particular small group which was a happy surprise as I was worried about being the only unfaithful woman in the group. We are not religious people but we have been able to participate fully in EMS Online and enjoy the fruits of the group dynamic. In our situation it has been crucial to have the support of the group and this is ongoing. During my EMS Online experience I learned the small but beautiful art of 'Hearfelt Listening' which was a revelation to me and has helped soothe my husband to no end. I couldn't recommend this course more. It offers and delivers hope, support and a road-map to recovery. It's an immense feeling to know you are not alone."

12/6/18

- I. Ireland | EMSO Participant

"I was very worried about signing up for EMSO. I knew we needed help, but I'm such a private person I could not imagine talking about his affair to strangers. It was such a relief to find it so helpful, so supportive, both to me as the betrayed but also to the unfaithful spouse. I have finished the course feeling so much better about myself and my marriage. "

8/10/18

- C. Portugal | EMSO Participant

"It was absolutely amazing the way we able to have non escalated conversations about what happened, what lead up to the affair happening and what we could do to recover from it. Our marriage would not have made it without this course. We are so thankful for the material, the homework (even the tough weeks and conversations) the videos and Q&A to know that we're not crazy for the way this has affected us. Thanks again for the Hope of our marriage not just surviving but thriving."

8/10/18

- D. FL | EMSO Participant

"It was great to connect with people that will hopefully be friends for life! "

8/10/18

- W. MN | EMSO Participant

"AR has saved my marriage. We may have stayed married, but it would not have been the marriage it should be. One of Samuel's videos was the breakthrough for my husband. It made the blinders fall off, and he agreed to take EMSO. EMSO has changed both of us. My husband now has empathy, stays present with me, and we are communicating better and more honestly than ever before. And I found a community that completely understands what I am going through. I found out I am not alone. "

8/10/18

- J. FL | EMSO Participant

"I was initially skeptical of this course but even before registration found AR to be quickly responsive and positive to questions and problems quickly solved via email. From delivery of the course materials to the end of the course AR are always helpful and there for you. The course content is hard as stated in the literature but from the first call I was won over by the openness and honesty of everyone within our small group, particularly our mentors. It was a relief to be able to talk to others, without fear, who are in the same situation and can help and empathize. A great support system to have on my journey to a better life and marriage. I just wish I'd known what I know now before my infidelity. (It probably would not have happened but we, unfortunately, can not change our past) Can't recommend AR strongly enough!!"

8/10/18

- S. Portugal | EMSO Participant

"This program turned my outlook from very, very little hope to great hope for a better future together. It provided the tools needed to move me forward from my "stuck" position. This is better than weekend to remember, although that helps a marriage, this addresses our issue in the length and way I so desperately needed, being the betrayed in the relationship. Hopeful again!"

8/10/18

- C. TX | EMSO Participant

"We apprehensively began EMS online because at that time, we were at 14 months past disclosure and felt concern that this course would not be tailored to fit our situation. However, we are so thrilled to share how untrue that turned out to be! The course offers essential information and intimacy building exercises that are excellent tools that serve us well in our struggle for peace, hope, strength, and love. Married for life, here we come! "

8/10/18

- C. Canada | EMSO Participant

"After talking to a counselor for about a year, this class was by far the best thing for us. Talking to the counselor helped a bit, but through the homework we did in this class, it helped us talk about the issues we are facing. There was clearly a specific order of topics that helped us to work through the pain and discovery and eventually leading us toward the hope of trusting again. The other benefit, talking to other couples in the same situation, with the same pain as my marriage. I thank them for their honesty."

8/10/18

- B. OR | EMSO Participant

"Thank you Affair Recovery, our Group Leader, and the Community calls for all your efforts to help rebuild marriages. When we started the EMS Online our marriage was a mess. We both did not feel safe; opening ourselves up to the other. Communication was lacking, feelings of frustration, and a lot of hurt kept us from moving forward in our marriage. EMS Online has given us tools to rebuild our marriage. We have learned how to be vulnerable, heartfelt listening, how to work with anger, learning to enjoy each other, and lots more. Another marriage healing. Thank you so much."

7/12/18

- L. Florida | EMSO Participant

"The Week 6 curriculum is very emotional. It's intense but a major breakthrough in my recovery. Hearing my husband's assignment was like removing every thorn in my heart."

1/16/18

- S. California | EMSO Participant

"The EMSO was a life saver! Just to know I wasn't alone and my feelings and emotions were "normal" was so helpful. I don't think my marriage has a chance without this course. I would recommend this course for anyone facing infidelity! It's a life like and a ray of hope."

7/7/17

- T. California | EMSO Participant

"While the [Week 2] lesson was a more difficult lesson to get through because of the topic, the workbook and videos were excellent. I especially appreciated that the mentor video was from a couple who had been married for so long and had so many years of infidelity. Talk about providing hope! I know that how things progress depends on how the much work we are willing to put into this. I have struggled with trust, stemming back from 7 years ago... I had no idea how to address it. ...Reading the part about safety and honesty, instead of focusing on where is the trust, was so freeing and provided hope for both of us. We have made more progress in two weeks in our marriage, than we have in the last 7 years! I think part of that is realizing how to understand our mate and what they might be going through. And it definitely helps that we are both willing to work through this together. You have provided a means that my husband was able to open up about things he has held in our entire marriage, because he felt safe! Thank you for that!"

6/23/17

- K. Wisconsin | EMSO Participant

"I really appreciated the safe place to share, when the week had been rough or even good with my spouse. No judgement or criticism, just understanding."

6/23/17

- S. TX | EMSO Participant

"...We are learning and applying so much of what we are learning in this course. It's amazing... I have talked about it a lot with my therapist and she too has been amazed. I'm so very glad that God led me to your organization and the people in our group!! Thank you for doing what you do!!"

6/12/17

- K. Pennsylvania | EMSO Participant

"As the [betrayed] Spouse-- the curriculum is " spot on". The conference calls has made me see and feel that all my feelings, thoughts , emotions, etc are validated and normal--- with the nightmare of infidelity. And--- finally after months and months --- my spouse is finally " getting it". I truly have hope now."

5/31/17

- L. West Virginia | EMSO Participant

"... this should be a mandatory class prior to marriage.... I had a completely wrong idea about what marriage really is. I definitely learned a lot of new tools that I would like to apply in the future. Thank you again to great feedback and support...."

5/31/17

- N. Ontario | EMSO Participant

"EMS Online was helpful to us. My husband, the unfaithful, contacted Affair Recovery out of desperation for help. It was 3 months after discovery and we had no one to turn to or direction to go. Affair Recovery gave us something constructive to do to help us understand our situation and to know there were others who have experienced similar heartbreak and recovered. It encouraged us to read the lessons and use the workbook to relate to each other and stir some intimate conversation that otherwise wouldn't have been there at this difficult time. "

3/31/17

- J. Virginia | EMSO Participant

"Is heart surgery good? Yes, when necessary but it is still super painful. Is EMSO good? Yes, it was like heart surgery for me: painful and necessary. As the betrayed, I went into the course wanting structure and community with others who were walking the same road. I didn't know at the time that I also needed to truly grieve the situation. But through the weeks, I got it all. The structure is great, keeping you thinking, digging, processing, praying and talking to each other. The chance to meet and share with other women who truly understood was so good. The chance to give me a safe place to wake up to my emotions and grief and really look into my life and our relationship was wonderful. We are still on the road, but EMSO gave us tools and framework for healing. Would we still be together without it? Probably, but it possibly would be like putting a band aid on a heart that needed surgery. Thank you so much for our scholarship. It was a blessing to do the course without worrying about how to pay for it. "

3/10/17

- E. Texas | EMSO Participant

"We are in the Netherlands... just finished EMS Online with calls early in the morning. It is killing at times... but for us: it was all more than worth the trouble.... I had a hard time sleeping anyway, waking up early and sometimes being awake for hrs. A conference call with good people in the same boat [was] great. And I never slept better than after the calls.... Get Skype to work on your device, it is easy, worked best for us on the iPad. Really, I highly recommend it as you gain so much from it..."

3/9/17

- E. Netherlands | EMSO Participant

"I cannot say enough about the EMS Online curriculum. It is challenging, biblical, thorough, and life changing. I have learned so much about myself, God, and my spouse. Thank you Affair Recovery for changing my life and my marriage. Our group leader, Greg, led us with strength, hope, and humor. So thankful for him and our time in EMS Online. Thank you so much."

2/6/17

- D. Texas | EMSO Participant

"I cannot say enough about what this course has meant to my husband and me and the impact it has had. We are using the techniques daily; especially the Pyramid of Truth and L.I.F.E. I came looking for a way to save my marriage and sanity and I found a new way to live, choosing life, not death. Getting to ground zero was a big challenge for us. My husband had many secrets and a great deal of shame around them, things he had never told anyone. I was so discouraged at the time of our last D-Day to get a bunch of new information. I revisited Rick's words about viewing this as progress and wrote our Group Leader for advise as to whether or not we should separate at that point. She reminded me that it is progress and told me to do what God is telling me to do. That was the best advise I could have gotten. God was and is calling me to stay, fight for redemption and heal. My husband is working so hard to heal and rebuild and I know that is a blessing that not everyone has. Surely God's Grace is delivered through Affair Recovery and the Saints who work there. Thank you and I look forward to Harboring Hope and Married for life along with our private counseling and the extraordinary life to come. Our Group Leader did an amazing job as our mentor. She always seemed to know just what to say and met everyone where they were. Her hope and faith is contagious. I am so glad God sent her to us or us to her. Either way it is pure Grace."

7/29/16

- M. Ohio | EMSO Participant

"So happy we completed the EMS Online course. It was exactly what we needed to restore our marriage & give us hope. We would recommend this program to everyone seeking help dealing with infidelity in a marriage."

7/25/16

- L. Illinois | EMSO Participant

"The chapters in the EMS Online workbook are spot on. I have obtained valuable new tools to better deal with my life. This has been an amazing course and I honestly look forward to our group meetings each week."

7/22/16

- B. Kentucky | EMSO Participant

"Each week of this program confirms the fact that without a structured group support system in place, we would have had very little chance of staying married beyond 2 years post Discovery-Day. During every group call, I feel privileged to be sharing this most personal, private and important journey."

7/22/16

- A. United Kingdom | EMSO Participant

"From Week 9 of EMS Online: The curriculum on forgiveness was excellent. I would also like to say that am really seeing the value in the group experience. I felt the heartfelt sincerity from an unfaithful female in our group as she shared her assignment with her husband. I felt so much empathy for the shame and suffering she was going through. I realized that my husband is just as sorry and hurting from this as she is and has also expressed that very well and thoughtfully. Having empathy for her, because I am looking at her situation from the outside, helps me to have empathy for my husband. Due to the high profile nature of both of our jobs, we could not participate in a group like this locally, it just wouldn't work for us. We are so thankful for this online group experience."

6/23/16

- M. Ohio | EMSO Participant

"Very impressed with our Group Leader. He always encourages us to add our thoughts, to be comfortable sharing, and to use our Small Group Wall more. The EMS Online curriculum has definitely been on target with addressing issues that haven't been addressed as directly in previous counseling type settings we've experienced."

6/16/16

- P. Louisiana | EMSO Participant

"We were so desperate to find help and direction, and every hope we had for this course was fulfilled, and more. We will take the lessons learned forward with us, reviewing them as often as needed. There is really no way to measure the hope we have found in these 13 weeks. The EMSO course and format taught us more in this short time than we learned on our own in 31 years of marriage. Our relationship is already richer than it's ever been, and we have incredible hope for a very happy future. "

5/20/16

- J. Missouri | EMSO Participant

"This is a wonderful program. It has given us insights that have helped us move forward and understand what to do and how to do it better. Even if we don't make it (I hope to) we will be able to move on individually in a much healthier way."

5/9/16

- T. Illinois | EMSO Participant

"My husband was blind to his infidelity prior to starting EMS Online. The curriculum, as early as just 2 weeks in, along with his personal story, enabled him to see the truth about the way he has lived his life, for which I am thankful. As a betrayed spouse, I felt supported by the curriculum."

4/27/16

- J. Missouri | EMSO Participant

"Learning every week! Wish we would have done this program over anything else! We would have saved time, money & pain!! Thank you so much for all you are doing!!"

4/13/16

- D. Missouri | EMSO Participant

"Without community and support, getting through infidelity is impossible. I am so grateful that I found AR as it literally saved our marriage. Finding others that have experienced the same thing creates a safe environment and allows for true healing to begin. It was worth each and every penny. Hands down."

4/8/16

- T. Texas | EMSO Participant

"I was very nervous to get started with the first group call, however, within just a few minutes of listening to our Group Leader, she made me feel comfortable! Our Leader has a wonderful heart and we were able to hear it in her voice during each weekly call. We could feel how she cared for us and what we were going through during our highs and lows of this 13 week course. Excellent group leader!"

4/7/16

- N. Pennsylvania | EMSO Participant

"It's so nice to know that I'm not the only person going through this and feeling this way. Every little bit of the curriculum reinforces this for me. So even if the curriculum was terrible, and it's definitely not, it would be well worth it. Thank you so much for being here for all of us. I look forward to learning how to come out of all of this hurt as a better person and couple."

4/7/16

- A. Colorado | EMSO Participant

"This curriculum was so helpful for us to begin this recovery process. Rick has been an amazing communicator and we also gleaned a lot of great information from the weekly videos of the mentors. We will be forever grateful!"

4/7/16

- D. North Carolina | EMSO Participant

"As we are going through this course, we are seeing how good and thorough it is. I wish we would have taken this course years ago!!! It would have saved us much heartache and pain. It has been much better than ANY of the counseling we've had. We have paid over $10,000 for other seminars, counseling, etc, but nothing comes close to Affair Recovery. This is the best affair recovery resource we've seen or experienced. Thank you!"

3/2/16

- T. Missouri | EMSO Participant

"Infidelity is a painful and confusing bump in the road of life, and even worse, you can't talk to friends or family for support! You find yourself surfing the Internet or reading books full of generalities. Your therapist just wants to talk about your mother. In contrast, EMS Online gives you professional guidance and a support group of other couples in crisis. Whatever you decide to do about your marriage, you will have a healthier future if you complete one of the programs from Affair Recovery. If you're not spiritual, replace the word "God" with "hope" to get the most from this wonderful program. "

2/12/16

- C. Maryland | EMSO Participant

"This course has, hands down, provided the best information on recovering from infidelity and strengthening a marriage. EMS Online provided a personal sense of accountability with weekly readings and group meetings. I can't say enough positive things about this course. I feel for anyone who has been thrust into this horrible situation, but know that this course has the opportunity to provide so much hope and healing. Thank you for helping provide the groundwork to a stronger marriage, that is priceless for myself, my husband, and children."

2/12/16

- S. Michigan | EMSO Participant

"EMSO helped me to realize this isn't something to just forget and move on from. I realized it is okay to talk about the affair and walk through the pain with others like us."

12/23/15

- B. Ohio | EMSO Participant

"This course literally saved my marriage. Watching the videos, working through the written material, and sharing our personal struggles and triumphs with other couples who were going through the same thing gave me and my husband a chance to restore what was lost and heal from the wounds my infidelity had caused. We are in a much better place now. We have a whole new intimacy we'd never had in all the years we were married. Thank you, thank you, thank you! God bless this ministry"

12/23/15

- D. Illinois | EMSO Participant

"We started the Bootcamp 3 days after D-Day and EMSO as soon as an opening was available. Words cannot express how grateful I am that I found Affair Recovery so soon after learning of my husband's affair. When he told me that he had engaged in both a physical and emotional affair with a former coworker and close friend, I felt like my whole world was coming to an end. We felt especially alone because we are only in our early 20s, have only been married 2 years, and have no children. Most people in our situation would have walked away. But, after 10 years together, I wasn't prepared to throw it all away and start over. If you feel like there is *anything* worth fighting for in your marriage, you need the resources at Affair Recovery. Hearing the stories of other couples and sharing our own lifted that feeling of isolation--we realized we were definitely not alone. At first I was afraid that taking a course and being open to the possibility of forgiveness and reconciliation was an indirect way of providing permission to betray again. I learned very quickly that is not the case. The marriage we have now is one I never even dreamed of. We still have a lot of work moving forward but I have never been more hopeful for our relationship than I am now. An affair is not something to forget and move on from. It is part of our story now but we've taken the time to walk through the pain and deal with it in a healthy way. "

12/16/15

- B. Ohio | EMSO Participant

"I'm so thankful for this course. It helped my spouse and I methodically work through the recovery process and gave us practical steps to continue moving forward. We were stuck at a place in recovery and this provided a big leap forwarded. I have more hope that we can make it through this now. Thanks to everyone at AR! "

10/23/15

- S. Texas | EMSO Participant

"This course gave my husband and I the tools we needed to stop the screaming and yelling and actually start the healing. Without the help we received, a divorce would be in the works."

8/21/15

- S. Mississippi | EMSO Participant

"I entered the program feeling desperate and confused about my future with my spouse. The program was well designed and well run and we got so much out of it. "

8/14/15

- M. Massachusetts | EMSO Participant

"I am quite sure that we would not have been able to see through the mud of infidelity with out the assistance of EMS Online."

9/19/14

- J. Canada | EMSO Participant

"Finding out that my emotions were normal and completely valid made the path to healing a possibility. "

9/19/14

- B. Texas | EMSO Participant

"We couldn't find anything like EMS Online around us, with people who understand, who wouldn't judge and would walk through the dark places with us. It has brought healing, hope, and a future to my marriage"

9/19/14

- A. Australia | EMSO Participant

"EMS Online provided us with a safe environment to discuss a deeply personal hurt. It also gave us a road map on how to start a journey of healing for our marriage. "

9/19/14

- D. KS | EMSO Participant

"I think this was a very good course. It helped me and my husband see what our actions have cost our marriage and how many years were wasted in not getting help sooner."

9/19/14

- C. Utah | EMSO Participant

"EMS Online helped us in so many different ways. It was wonderful to have people to reach out to that understood my feelings and thoughts. The support was simply soothing and warm. "

9/19/14

- L. Kansas | EMSO Participant

"Without our small group, our marriage may have turned out differently. We're grateful for one another and know that our group feels the same about our presence."

9/19/14

- DT. California | EMSO Participant

"I think the real key to being able to move forward is learning the right lessons in a non judgemental envvironment. EMS Online shattered alot of preconceived ideas and laid the groundwork for a stronger marriage going forward. "

9/19/14

- E. Neveda | EMSO Participant

"EMSO was going to be my last effort at saving my marriage. This course got us talking about the affair, grouped us with other couples going through the same struggles, and gave us tools and support to deal with our issues. I am hopeful and more committed to working on our marriage."

9/11/14

- D. Kentucky | EMSO Participant

""While our marriage is still very much in the healing process, we now no longer feel stuck since taking EMS Online. We feel like we have grown so much over the last few months and that we have a good direction for our marriage. Our communication is definitely more open and we are continuing to learn how to best provide a safe place for each other as we continue healing and recovery.""

9/11/14

- T. Texas | EMSO Participant

"We appreciated greatly the communication with others who wanted to save their marriages instead of turning straight to divorce."

9/11/14

- R. South Carolina | EMSO Participant

"We tried self-help books and MFTs but this is the first program we did together and actually completed. Absolutely worth it! "

9/11/14

- S. USA | EMSO Participant

"Before finding Affair Recovery, we had seen a few very good counselors. But I still felt lost... like I was so in need of some more specific guidance... something concrete to help us through this confusing & painful situation. Affair Recovery was it! How thankful I am that we found this program. It was a God-send. Things are still hard, but at least we now have some tools to help us work on healing in our marriage"

9/11/14

- M. Washington | EMSO Participant

"It got our marriage out of the darkness and shined a light on important and often challenging issues each week."

9/11/14

- P. California | EMSO Participant

"Before the course I was sooooo full of anger and resentment. Thru the 12 weeks my spouse and I learned how to get to ground zero to start fresh and to live again. It feels so good and I feel I have came so far. The feeling of hopelessness is gone and I can see my future! Thank you so much."

9/11/14

- J. South Dakota | EMSO Participant

"I was very apprehensive about an online recovery course, but the facilitator and the other couples gave us the courage to stand in the gap and look at situations through each others' eyes.We have hope for a future together! "

9/11/14

- S. Texas | EMSO Participant

"Having somebody understand EXACTLY what you are going through makes going through this course worth every penny. Also, having to face the issues that need to be addressed in order to heal WITH your spouse makes all the difference in the world. It was awesome and healing to have my husband "get" the pain I was going through AND for me to understand his too."

9/11/14

- A. Texas | EMSO Participant

"EMSO gave me a safe place where I could talk about my past without shame, and being with others who wanted to fight for their marriages gave me the guts to tell "all". That gave me courage to say what I felt I needed to say in order to help others in the same boat! It wasn't just words; you bonded with the others in this "fight" against the forces that be that wanted to destroy our lives. "

7/14/14

- M. California | EMSO Participant

Affair Recovery

Weekend Retreats

Online Courses for

Recovery Library

Hope Rising Conference

About Us

free resources

start here

affair analyzer

first steps bootcamp

weekend retreats

in person

virtual

online courses for

couples

betrayed spouses

wayward spouses

recovery library

hope rising annual conference

free resources

success stories

about us

blog

EMS Online

Online Course For Couples To Heal After Infidelity, 2^nd Edition

About the Online Course

Specialized tools promote healing

Hope from others gone before

Belong to a Small Group that gets what you're going through

What’s covered in the curriculum, the short list

Answers From Experts: Weekly Video Q&A with Rick

What else is included?

Complimentary 12 Month Recovery Library Membership

EMS Online Aftercare (optional)

100% Money-Back Guarantee

FAQ

Scholarships are available. Apply Here

Payment Option:

Registration Details

Testimonials

EMS Online

Online Course For Couples To Heal After Infidelity, 2nd Edition

About the Online Course

Specialized tools promote healing

Hope from others gone before

Belong to a Small Group that gets what you're going through

What’s covered in the curriculum, the short list

Answers From Experts: Weekly Video Q&A with Rick

What else is included?

Complimentary 12 Month Recovery Library Membership

EMS Online Aftercare (optional)

100% Money-Back Guarantee

FAQ

Scholarships are available. Apply Here

Payment Option:

Registration Details

Testimonials

Online Course For Couples To Heal After Infidelity, 2^nd Edition