My husband is a sex addict. He was fired from his job and is on house arrest pending court decision about a sex offending charge. We have been married 35 years and this was one of many infidelities but by far the most debilitating. I am trying to not make the decision to divorce him but find it hard to stay loving toward him. He is going to a certified counselor and started a Sex Addicts Anonymous online group last week. We are in EMS Online. But on the surface this looks like trying but any time I bring up the situation he gets angry and defensive. He hasn’t told the family he is a sex addict and this wasn’t his first time of acting out in our marriage. I see the defensiveness and the future attempt to hide from consequences and the refusal to acknowledge his addiction as going through the motions. He’s doing everything he can right now hoping it will look good to the courts. Can I trust this as real change or just further manipulation?