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Ever been afraid to look at something? For instance, when you rear-end someone's car and are afraid to get out and look at the damage? Why is it hard for us to look, to acknowledge what happened, and to assume responsibility for our part in it? Tim Keller said in his book, The Meaning of Marriage, , "Love without truth is sentimentality; it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws."
Years ago, I had the privilege of working with a program that helped people who were guilty of crimes but refused to admit involvement. We know that a certain percentage of people convicted of crimes, or even wrongdoing that...
Welcome to Affair Recovery's Harboring Hope Monthly Drawing. We want to know you. We want to serve you. This means we want to hear from you!
The first step is telling us what we can do for you. Please tell us why you’d like to take Harboring Hope. If you made a comment prior to a previous registration period, that comment is still good for your entry.
Remember, submit a comment of 500 words or less about why you'd like to take the Harboring Hope course. Remember, it's a random drawing so your entry won't be based on merit or on your situation. Comments will be moderated by AR staff. Drawings will be held monthly. If you'd like more information, you can also read our official rules.
The winner for Feb. 2026 was "...
In Episode 6, we explore a question that rattles in the hearts of so many reeling from the pain of infidelity: Is it truly possible to rebuild trust again? Our expert therapists dive into three essential rebuilding blocks when trust feels out of reach—honesty, safety, and consistency. We tackle difficult...
After Birdee Pruitt is publicly betrayed by her husband on national television, she takes her daughter and moves back to her small hometown. Traumatized and humiliated, she slowly begins the work of rebuilding a life she once believed was secure, all while confronting her past and the scrutiny of small-town eyes. Hope Floats portrays a woman whose hopeful outlook–not only in her marriage, but in herself—vanishes in a single moment.
I can relate. After my own discovery of betrayal, hope wasn’t at the forefront of my mind–nor was it for my husband. Those early months were disorienting and tumultuous. If someone had told us to look for hope, I don’t think either one of us would have known what to look for. The world had flipped on its axis, and hope, at that point, was nowhere to be found.
What Keeps Us From Hope After Betrayal...
For Candiece, the discovery was like "falling off a cliff and never hitting the ground." For Cornellus, it was the culmination of a lifelong void—an attempt to fill a childhood wound with anything that would be a drop of water to the drought he battled within. Like so many couples, they found themselves in the wreckage of an affair, drowning in secrecy, shame, and the exhausting effort of pretending everything was okay while growing further apart.
Their breakthrough began when they stopped trying to fix the unfixable on their own. By connecting with mentors, diving into therapy and entering the EMS-Online course,...
In this episode, we address the anxiety of reengaging sexually after an affair and whether it is possible to build a thriving intimate life again. Our expert therapists discuss "rewriting the sexual script," helping couples move past intrusive thoughts and comparison by redefining the true goal of intimacy. Whether you are struggling with "hysterical bonding" or feeling stuck after...
"How do you live with yourself?" he asked, sounding disgusted.
"How do I live with myself?" I responded defensively, never expecting to be asked to defend my own existence as a betrayed spouse. I stumbled through an awkward reply before stopping mid-sentence and asking him to clarify.
He wanted to know how I'd rebuilt my life after being dealt such a painful blow and how I could still be married to the person who caused it.
It got me thinking: How do you reclaim your life, sanity, peace, and purpose after betrayal—yours or your partner's? How do you find a new reason to be together or a...
Even though it was twenty-five years ago when I received my training at the Colorado Institute for Marriage and Family Therapy, I still remember my mentor Dr. Jan Raynak's words: "Rick, couples will make more movement in the holiday season than in all the other months combined." I noticed that he didn't say progress, and I asked for clarification, "Progress or movement?" I asked. "Movement," he replied. The past 25 years have proven him right.
Out of all the days of the year, no day symbolizes "family togetherness" more than Christmas. As a result, no time highlights the distance of a ruptured relationship more than this season. If you and your mate are still close to ground zero...
In this episode, we dive into the muddy waters of faith and infidelity, addressing the profound spiritual crisis that occurs when you feel let down and betrayed by God or burdened by your own unfaithfulness. Our expert therapists share their own struggles with faith amidst an affair, navigating spiritual abuse in ministry, and moving past minimizing religious clichés to find genuine...
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