My unfaithful wife asked me what I would think if she went to see the fireworks with the affair partner for the 4th of July. I just stared at her not knowing what to say. After a moment I asked her what she thinks that will make me feel, and she said I would get really mad. So I left it at that. She didn't go with him. We are at the point of starting the divorce process because she refuses to stop communicating with this man. She said it is best if we divorce so I won’t be hurt anymore by her actions. I told her I love her and if that is what she wants then I feel like I have to give her the freedom. Being married obviously didn’t stop her from doing what she did so I just don’t know what to do with this. I feel like I have to divorce her to let her hit rock bottom in a way. She doesn’t work and I still pay for everything for her. I have cut back a lot but still she needs to grow up. I don’t know if by me telling her I love her enough to let her go, is hurting us or is helping her snap out of it. I am working on myself as much as I can and I can feel improvements but she doesn’t want to get any help. She says only God can help her.