My husband says he loves me and never wants to get a divorce but also does not want to stop dealing with his affair partner. We have been doing this dance for a year now and I'm ready to file for divorce. He recently said he has stopped sleeping with her but they still have to work together and he still parties with her which is such a slap in my face. He has his own place and although he said he will visit us every day if I'd let him. I put up boundaries of co-parenting only recently. He is not trying to be 100% committed to our marriage or come home to our family. We have 4 kids and it's sickening to wait for a man who is supposed to be yours to choose you 100%, it's always a tiny step but not really. Now I'm the bad guy because I don't care that he just stopped sleeping with her when he hangs out with her on the weekends and drinks with her which can easily lead to intimacy...if I even believed he wasn't being intimate with her to begin with.