Since discovering my husband’s affair nine months ago, we have been in recovery. He goes to therapy regularly, I go to therapy every other week, and we both go to counseling weekly together for the last eight months. I've done Harboring Hope and we will be doing the EMS Weekend in the near future. We're committed to working on our marriage, and admittedly, our recovery process has been tough at times (e.g. his shame, my impatience), but we're working through it to rebuild. How can my husband convince me that he truly wants me? He says he does and I believe him, but that passion is not always there, and I'm wondering if I'm blocking it. How do I start to want him more, despite the pain of what has happened? Just wondering how we can both flip that "desire" switch back on as we work on healing. Discovery process is still going on, and he's being more forthcoming. Just don't want to miss out on a way for us to truly reconnect and for me to feel wanted and desired again.