My husband and I were each other’s first sexual partners. We have agreed that saved us from many problems related to sexual activity outside of a monogamous marriage. We have raised both of our daughters with these principles. I never would have believed my husband would have risked his life by having unprotected sex with a highly promiscuous person (he works in the medical field). He did not take any protective measures against STD's and continued sexual contact with me throughout the affair. I had no indication that anything was wrong until after I had been exposed to STD’s. He can't even explain to me why he did not think about STD's. I feel like his brain turned to scrambled eggs during the affair because these choices were out of character for him.

I feel like I have done my daughters a disservice in teaching them if they live by the principles I did they will be able to live safe and protected lives. Now I have no confidence in teaching my girls about trusting a husband and making choices that will protect themselves. Can you offer me any help on how to make peace with this and how to regain my confidence as a mom to two girls? Also, how would you counsel your own daughters when it comes to protecting themselves from STD's, even in what they believe is a monogamous marriage?