Q&A How Do We Handle Discovery When the Affair Happened So Long Ago?

I am 5 months out from discovery. I’m doing Harboring Hope — love it. Love my group of ladies. Love the workbook and videos. However, my husband’s infidelity was nearly 25 years ago at its conclusion. It lasted for no less than 8 years. He can’t remember the exact times. We’ve piece a timeline together based on life events. He expected to take the secret to his grave. I found out. For him the whole thing was over years ago. He’s over it. I can’t bear that he was able to have an affair to start with but to lie to me all those years is devastating.