Q&A Should I Not Bring up the Affair Again?

Submitted by Leslie_Hardie Wed, 07/12/2017 - 14:48

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The D-day was 11/14/2017. Since that day, my betraying husband has been doing everything he could to make it up. He has been very remorseful and repentant. What he could not tolerate was that I still talked about the affair details. He asked me when I could stop talking about it. I tried to control myself not to mention his affair as I knew it also hurt him so much due to his shame and guilt, but it was hard when I had a trigger. Should I really not bring up the affair again?

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I feel like the affair is part of our history and we should be able to talk about it as we work past the pain. It will forever be part of that history and I think should not be a taboo topic.

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