How should you relate/interact with your spouse if they are still unapologetically involved with their AP but also do not want to get divorced but say they are confused and don't know what they want? If I relay my emotions of being hurt and angry and disgusted it pushes him away and if I am kind and suppress my emotions things seem to go well with our "relationship" but he also is able to have his cake and eat it too. How do you know if you're being too hard or not hard enough on them? Is there anything we can do to make them leave the AP?