I face a double-edged betrayal. My husband of 33 years got involved in an online affair last July. I discovered it in mid Nov. He showed no remorse and was set in his fantasy. Mid-January, I discovered a massive financial loss. Emptied investment accounts & over $150k in loans taken. Total financial devastation! It turned out to be an online romance scam. "She" doesn't exist. Now says he wants restoration, but there's little, if any, fruit of repentance/remorse. He's never liked confrontation. He wants me to just get over it and says "keep it in perspective...not that big of a deal". We are in counseling, but not getting too far. He's 68 & I'm 58.