My wife’s first affair came to light in June 2016- 3 days after we moved into our first home. She abandoned me in our home that we purchased to go live with her AP. I eventually gave her an ultimatum and she chose the marriage and ended the affair. We went through many months of counseling and I was consulting AR at the time. After about a year I thought we had made good progress and that we would make it. However, 2 years out the neighbor lady knocks on my door and tells me she is having an affair with her husband. That family is now divorcing. My wife also brought to light that she had become pregnant a few months into her 2nd affair with my child. (The AP was no longer able to conceive.) She chose to abort what would have been our first child and continue the affair. The 2nd affair lasted almost a year. She is working hard in recovery now. However- I am wondering if things are beyond repair. I am very ambivalent about staying married.