D-Day was in October. Contact between my husband and the affair partner continued until January when he said he was committing to the marriage. In April, we began the EMS Online course. Apparently the affair partner reached out to my husband during April and May. My husband in engaging in the EMS Online course, completing the work, watching the videos, and interacting well on the calls. He is also in counseling, but due to work he has missed a few sessions and arrived late to others. I am unsure whether or not this is intentional or really due to circumstances at work. Outside of the EMS Online course we only communicate about kids, the home, and nothing more. I have asked repeatedly for check-ins, transparency, and it just doesn't happen. I feel if I had to put a hard boundary in place, it wouldn't matter. I am just a little lost as how to proceed. Do I need to allow him more time in his process? I also feel like the intellectual empathy is there but not the emotional connection. I read about martial anorexia and wonder if that could be his issue. Recently I stepped back and stopped initiating - he then started initiating and watching the EMSO videos but there is still no communication or conversation. I worry that it will just continue this way. Do I continue to step back to allow him to step forward or do I push for communication, conversation, and connection?