My husband had two back-to-back affairs with two young girls, in their early 20s, from his office. He was 38 at the time and we were married for 15 years and had 2 young children. The first one was an afternoon delight in the car. That ended when she left the company. The second one, soon after the first, was in the car after they went to the bar with other office workers on Friday nights. Eventually they graduated to the motel. This affair lasted for months. At this time we were in marriage therapy. The marriage counsel asked him where he wanted to be down the road 10 to 20 years. He saw a path of goodness with me and the kids and grandkids and he wanted to head that way, but he didn't want to end the affair. Eventually I threw him out of the house. The next day he goes to the affair partner and tells her that I threw him out. He did not end the affair. She turned around and told him to "get his head on straight and go work on his marriage." He turned around and went to his desk. She ended the affair. How ironic. He claims he did not talk to her or see her after that which I believe. But he claims he ended it by not talking or seeing her again. He told me that he had no intention of ending it when he told her what happened. He never ended it by telling her he couldn't see her anymore. So who ended the affair? This has been a game changer for me by not standing up for me and the marriage.