I recently found out about my husband's affair. I caught him in the hotel parking lot with her. It was very traumatic for me. He spent the next month lying about it and denying everything. After finally getting the truth and attending a marital conference we were able to discuss things and try to work through the issues. Since then he stated his hurt feelings related to us not being able to connect emotionally. He has struggled with addictions and linked his need for emotional connection to his addictions. The problem is I'm struggling to connect right now. I try, but there's times where I want to be alone and not talk about my feelings. He makes me feel bad for this and says I should be going to him with my feelings. He believes we've never had an emotionally connected marriage so that's why the affair happened. I've tried sharing with him what I need in the process of trying to recover, but he believes being able to talk deep with one another and connect is the key to our healing. I agree, but I'm struggling with my feelings. I feel like he's focusing more on that right now then working on getting past his sexual addiction issues. It's been hard to believe that in order for us to stay on track of healing and getting a better marriage I must force myself to connect with him. My question is how do I handle this situation and the problem I have to connect with him right now?