Hi Rick, in many of the resources on this site you say that it's normal for the betrayed to "feel they have no feelings" for the unfaithful but that it is likely that can change. My spouse is firmly in this camp- right after d-day she would tell me she cared about me but didn't know why, but it's moved to "I care about you as a human" to "I don't care about you". We're 2.5 months out from d day and our first therapist was the opposite of helpful- I understand why she's where she's at and that I deserve the feelings, but how do I help her begin to change this feeling? We start EMSO next week but her agreeing to join was based on our daughter rather than the marriage.