My husband, the betrayer, had confessed to a 1 1/2 affair to a black foreign worker but had many phone numbers of Asian women in his black book (so to speak) and a phone # of a gal with her name that worked as a chamber maid at a hotel he frequented (in his own hand writing) tucked away in his wallet. He says these were all for some kind of business or something and cannot remember what they were for. Of course he gets a little angry when I always bring it up and says let’s stop looking back and work on what we lost. But it drives me crazy. It has no closure for me and haunts me. Is there anything that you could suggest for me to help him understand the need for real disclosure of all his contacts? Or am I in the wrong? Thanks Rick.