The EMSO chapter on reconciliation helped explain my feelings towards my father in law, who, when my mother in law in the hospital, took his frustrations out on me by throwing something in my direction and cursing viciously at me. I haven't been back to visit since. He eventually apologized by saying "IF anything happened to upset you, then I'm sorry." That, to me, is not a real apology. By not taking responsibility, I don't want to have much of a relationship with him. My husband does not support me in this. He thinks I should just let it go since it was a one-time thing, out of character, he did apologize in his own way, and that I’m persecuting him on semantics. I feel unable to drop it, especially now that I know this occurred while my husband was in the midst of a string of affairs. All of it just feels so wrong. From my husband’s point of view, if I can’t get beyond this when his dad has “done his best”, how will I get beyond his betrayal? The difference is that my husband takes responsibility for his actions. I want my husband to talk to his father, but he hasn’t done it (despite repeated promises), and it looks like the best I would get is my husband getting everyone on the phone and me explaining my issue (unsatisfactory because I could just pick up the phone myself). What’s the best way to resolve this?