We are 8 months post D-Day and I am the betrayed. I am in HH and occasionally seeing my therapist. My husband last saw his own therapist about 5 months ago and together we went to Christian couples counseling 3 times but then stopped about 6 weeks ago. I haven't pushed the issue to return. I know he's trying hard to be a better man, but I'm concerned that he's not healing. He works long hours, worries about his company, doesn't sleep or eat well, gets caught up in the negativity of this world and obsesses about things he doesn't have any power over. This is the kind of behavior that led to the affair. He just drains the joy and energy out of me and I become numb to the negativity. I know he's remorseful and has disengaged from the AP, but he's going back to his old behavior and I'm going back to being the person who doesn't want to rock the boat. How do I heal when I don't feel like I can ever go to him about anything that concerns me? How do we heal from the infidelity when neither of us have the energy to invest in our relationship? How do I continue in my healing when I am surrounded by his negativity?