My husband and I are currently in week 2 of EMS Online, and just had a pretty significant discovery getting us to ground zero. I am the betrayed, and have done Harboring Hope and continue with my therapist. He has struggled to find the right therapist and is finding this course difficult. We are close to 18 months post initial disclosure. He had a limerent affair and was in love with her. This far out he can see it wasn't real love, however I can't wrap my head around the idea of being in love with 2 people at the same time. How do I feel special again after I have lost so much including places that were just ours?