My husband had a 1-year affair with a close friend of our family. I discovered the affair about 3 months ago and since then, we have gone to an EMS Weekend, are in couples therapy and my husband just started the Hope for Healing course. Overall, I'd say our marriage is on the road to recovery, however I continue to struggle with understanding how my friend could risk our friendship, our kids' friendship, etc. by being involved with my husband. I have had a chance to explore the "whys" from my husband's end of things and have experienced his understanding of the losses he has created but I feel that I'm needing that from her as well. I don't want to reconcile per se but I do want some kind of closure because I think it could help with the bitterness I am harboring toward her. What do you recommend?