Q&A How Do I Know If This Is Progress or Pretend Normal? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: How do you know if you are functioning in "pretend normal" or actually having better days? It seems like things are improving, we're communicating about safe topics (kids, work, etc.), there's physical contact, we spend more time together, I feel more joy and less pain. Then I fear we're ignoring the elephant in the room by not talking about the affair. Sections: Rick's Q & A timeRick's QuestionsRL_Category: Q&A Recovery LibraryRecovery FundamentalsStrengthening MarriageWhy Marriages FailRL_Media Type: Video