My unfaithful wife is struggling with knowing if she is in love with me. She is confused if she even knows what love is. This is incredibly painful for me as I'm already struggling with the knowledge that she cheated on me for 2 years, multiple D-Days, and trickle truth. She says she definitely knows she wants to stay married and seems to be trying hard to change destructive behaviors. What "in love" means to me: a passion for your spouse, not the butterflies of a new relationship, but a deep desire to be with them. Missing me when I'm gone over night for work, excited to see me when we both get home in the evening, looking forward to spending time together. She sometimes exhibits some of these qualities and other times doesn't. It's tearing me up thinking that through our EMS Online course that she may discover that she doesn't love me romantically. I'm hopeful the course will help her "know" but also scared that she will determine she doesn't. I'm unsure how to act, how to support her, and how to help myself accept that I can't control this.