My husband confessed his affair a year ago and we completed EMS Online. My family had to be told because they are close by. They kindly spoke of Christ and forgiveness to him, but what I feel needed to happen after that call was to reach out to him with some sort of action, not silence. My husband was close to my parents and they eased into seeing us with grandkid sport events, not talking about the affair, and coming to us for consistent visits. My siblings have been the challenge. For years my husband felt like an outsider and I failed in repairing that. I agree with our counselor who said those that are healthy on the inside (the brothers) should reach out to my husband on the outside to pull him in and remind him he is part of the family. I think my siblings feel my husband should be the one to make amends. What I would find healing is for all my family to show Christ’s love to the broken sinner and bring him in close and rejoice that he has chosen his marriage and repentance. If they can’t, then I feel like it is going to be a very long time before my husband will show his face at a family get together. Everyone is in pain and I am in the middle of it in my own pain with no clue what to do.