Q&A How Does Attraction Work with Sex Addiction?

I am new to EMS Online and after reading The Reality of Affairs; I need clarification on the topic of being "attracted" to someone other than your spouse. Two examples are given: "I have occasionally told my wife about someone I'm attracted to. In this life we're going to have people we're attracted to" and "Its natural for us to notice characteristics in others we find appealing or attractive". How does this specifically apply to a Sex Addict who has a visual addiction to attractive women and women's images and who used these women or their images for decades of compulsive acting out? The women he finds attractive fit the sexual arousal template that he created for himself through many years of pornography use. I can certainly understand being attracted to someone other than your spouse as a normal human experience. However, once there is sexual addiction in the mix, these words seem to justify poor choices and addictive behaviors. He clearly is still attracted to the women who fit his addictive arousal template.