My wife and I are just over nine months since I confessed my past infidelity to her. Since then we have taken several intensive recovery courses, are seeing counselors both individually and together. We have taken EMS Online, and are currently in Married for Life. She is taking Harboring Hope and I am taking Hope for Healing. Our biggest problem seems to be this: we have tried over the past nine months to be totally open an honest with each other and to share our feelings and work through them. However, as we dig deeper, both of us are afraid of hurting the other with by sharing our feelings. Some have said that we should share them with others such as those in our small groups and then only share what we’ve learned with each other. This seems to be less than open and honest. How does one determine what not to share with their spouse while remaining open and honest?