Hi Rick, The EMSO program has started tremendous personal growth for both of us. Your program is phenomenal and we have a much more intimate, honest, and joyful relationship now than 9 months ago on D-day. But, we are not out of the woods. This process has been especially hard on my unfaithful spouse. He is finally seeing that his never-ending quests for a better job, a better place to live, his drinking problems, his escalation to more intense types of porn, and finally, his secret infidelity (2 years) and sexting of women on dating websites all spring from the same dysfunctional thinking. This is a devastating realization and he needs a lot of emotional support -- again. He's also desperately in love with me now. Can someone like this develop the inner resources to be happy without constant excitement and change? What does it take? I believe you've treated many people with addictions. I am certainly working on my own issues and will not try to "fix" my husband. Is it reasonable for me to hope for a more stable partner and life? Thank you.