Hi Rick, I am the unfaithful. We are 8 months out from the end of my 18 month affair and 4 months from d-day. For about the past month and a half my mate and I have been being brutally honest. It feels good to have that type of honesty. During that time my spouse shared a story about someone in her past with me. She told me they were life long friends. She had a bad break up from a previous marriage and she needed a shoulder to cry on. He was there for her at that time of need. She has been thinking about him recently do to my infidelity. She says she doesn't love nor has she ever loved him. She says it's just the comfort from someone that has never betrayed her. She says she is still in love with me and is dedicated to the process. My mate assures me she will have no contact with him. I appreciate my spouse's honesty but is this normal or should I be worried I'm losing her to her past?