My wife and I have been married 36 years. We are 4 weeks out from the second D-Day where a four year affair was revealed. I found a therapist the first week which is helping me, I then connected to a marriage counselor for the to of us, and we just signed up for the EMS Online program which begins in a month. I have asked my wife who has taken full blame, shown remorse, and empathy to also seek an individual therapist. She is adamant she doesn't want one now and just wants to help me heal. Should I drop this issue or as I believe help our healing try to convince her? The last time I asked she became upset. My concern is her attachment to the affair partner which she has completely cut-off to the best of my knowledge.