I am the betrayed. My husband is a sex addict, and for entire 38 year marriage has acted out. We have done EMS weekend twice. D-day was 2 years ago. I had EMDR, but I don't feel it helped. My husband is very remorseful, says he loves me and wants the marriage. I am finally starting to get past some of the trauma, but what I notice now is what has helped me is the extreme disgust I feel about what my husband did. It is like I am seeing him as 2 different men, and my question is, is this normal, and more importantly, is this an unhealthy way to heal? I feel like seeing him as disgusting may not be the healthiest way to heal, but so far it has helped some of the trauma. Also, I am beginning to like myself better. I am just concerned that this feeling of disgust might be the wrong path to healing. Thank you so much.