My wife and I are going into our 3rd week of EMSO. The day before our 2nd week group meeting, my wife admitted to me that she had an affair. Something that she has been denying for the last 16 months. It really put me at ease to hear it come out of her mouth. After all 16 months of having her push everything under the rug. I gave her a safe place to answer my questions that I asked out of my work book. Yes she had a little emotions, and I was calm as can be. Mid way through the questions, she changed her story and said that she didn't have a affair. I like to believe that she didn't have an affair. I thought if she didn't have an affair and was willing to say she did to save our marriage, I could forget about all of her actions that shown me that she was having an affair. The more I think about it, there is so many unanswered questions that needs to be answered. This includes phone, affair partner, and many things. Did she have a affair and shame is getting the best of her? If she didn't how does so many things for a 2 years time look so convincing?