No matter how many times I try to set boundaries with my family, they always seem to have input on what we do and how they see it fit. Usually it causes more harm than good and creates unnecessary negative emotions with both myself the unfaithful and my wife the betrayed. They feel she should just get over it and move on which makes me angry and makes her both angry and anxious. They are a big financial support right now due to us both losing our jobs because of my decisions. I have thought about not accepting any more financial support so that we don't feel like we have to live by their standards, which I feel they expect us to. I have since gotten a new job which pays less and my wife has decided to return to graduate school to focus on herself in her recovery time, which they don't approve of. They have always enabled my behavior and gotten me out of consequences. This is something I have discovered in my own individual therapy process. What more could we possibly do to set these boundaries in stone to stop these negative emotions from hindering our recovery?