Hi Rick,

My husband’s affair included sexual “activities” but not intercourse. He swears he didn't "want that connection with her." He "thought he was in control and only liked her attention." When asked if he WOULD have had sex had she pushed he says: "NO. It never would have happened." Swears he actually couldn't stand her, found her "unattractive, dull and annoying, embarrassing" and that 90% of their interaction involved alcohol. He felt like “wasn’t being judged by her and superior."

He said he always felt awkward in the office and when they spent time. He said he felt ‘fake’ and never “comfortable with her.” He did; however, do lots of things one would do in a 'relationship' with someone they cared for them such as spending the night several nights, waiting for her to get her nails done, movies, taking a shower together after certain “activities,” calling them a cab to get both of them back to her apartment, helping her fix things, coffee and dinner dates, getting drunk and making out, trading music like preteens. Basically, what I have labeled 'playing house' in my 4 month absence with his colleague… he had literally just met.

What type of affair is this?! Emotional, physical? Sociopath narcissistic with some Mommy issues sprinkled in? Have you ever heard of a man doing these types of things and not wanting sex? What is the motivation for manipulating a person to this degree swearing up and down that he didn't love her?