My husband had a 5 year affair with a married woman who worked for him. We're 9 months post D-Day and are separated. We did the EMS Weekend and are doing Beyond EMS. He doesn't want anymore counselling or help. He gets irate if he hears anything negative but truthful about the ap. He never wants blame to be on her, says it his fault and to be mad at him. She betrayed me, my children, my mother in law and our church family as she spent time with all of us deceiving us all for 5 years. She shows no sign of remorse or regret to anyone. This comes from several sources of truth. She is many years older than me and anyone that knows her cannot see what he ever saw in her physically or personality wise. Most people refer to her as a "b" and she has no female friends. I know why now. I feel he is still rejecting that any part of this was fantasy and his pride will not allow him to see this for what it was and who she is. He says he wants to make our marriage work. I don't know if we'll ever move past it if he is unwilling to face the truth.