When first starting out on the road to recovery from an affair or sexual addiction, many people want a quick fix - a book, a video, a weekend retreat to cure them, so their lives can get back to normal as soon as possible. However, the best approach to truly heal is to view recovery as a lifelong process. For true transformation to take place, you need to examine the root causes of behaviors and thoughts, and it is vital to assemble a program to help you stay successful and sober. Putting together a process that works for you could include therapy, small groups, 12 step meetings, and ultimately, connecting with others in recovery to encourage and support you in your journey. While many think they can do this on their own, today Mickey stresses that connection and community are absolutely critical when in recovery...
Rick Reynolds, the founder and lead therapist at AffairRecovery.com, oftentimes says we learn far more from failure than we can ever learn in success. It's a principle that can be applied in everyday life, and specifically, in recovery from infidelity or addiction. How we handle failure can determine our next phase of life, and our next phase in maturity. After an affair, the last thing we need to do is cause more pain, to our spouse or to ourselves, and as unfaithfuls, finding new life and new hope for our future is paramount. Today, Samuel shares a poignant and much-needed discussion with unfaithfuls about their future, their moral failure, and, if they are willing to do the recovery work, their potential to heal.
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Are you aware of what made you or your marriage vulnerable to an affair? Contrary to popular belief, it wasn't a bad marriage that caused the infidelity.
As you can imagine, trying to predict infidelity can be a...
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And it started with peanuts. I attended a non-denominational Christian elementary school. One day when I was in the fourth grade, I had to stay in from recess for a reason I don't recall. To ease my pain and disappointment of missing out on the best part of the school day, my friend told me that I could have some of the peanuts she had in her lunch box. So, while the class was outside, I helped myself to some. However, I wasn't the only one who had to stay in that day. When two of my fellow sequestered classmates saw me snacking down on the tasty peanuts, they wanted some too. Now, my friend didn't give me permission to share with anyone else, but I decided, without much thought, that it would be ok if I did. Before I knew it, we had...
Today you'll hear five key factors that can either stall your recovery or actually speed it up. That's right; you did read that correctly: your healing can be accelerated if you utilize these five key principles and tools. Alternatively, if you choose to ignore these tools, your own repair work will most likely be stalled out. Surviving infidelity is not impossible, but it does require proven strategy from those who have had to climb out of their own pit and do the heavy lifting. While our significant other's healing is not within our control, our own healing and our repair work certainly are. As you take this journey with Samuel today, we hope you'll find healing, practical insights, and rejuvenation in your own recovery.
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The point of discovery of infidelity in a marriage is arguably the worst moment in both the unfaithful and the betrayed partner's lives. Emotions on both sides are high and often irrational, and fear and uncertainty about the future are drivers of many high-intensity interactions in the early days following disclosure. While these initial responses are natural, the unfaithful partner has an opportunity to take charge of their own response to kick-start a healthy healing process.
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Emotional boundaries are essential if a couple is going to survive the upheaval of infidelity or addiction. A boundaryless recovery will exacerbate all parties, including children, extended family, and even mental health professionals attempting to help. Utilizing emotional boundaries in everyday life can be hard enough, and to expect that the use of these boundaries will be easy in dealing with infidelity would not only be unrealistic, but inconsiderate of the pain and trauma we encounter early in life. However, with the right process and healing guides, emotional boundaries can serve as guideposts to help partners navigate through the complexity involved with protecting themselves from further damage. Today Samuel will share principles, personal mistakes, and eye-opening experiences from his own life to help those on both sides of the...
For decades, mental health professionals have stressed the need to have a healthy self-image in life. From self-love, to self-actualization, how we see ourselves is a true game changer, not only in our primary relationships, but also in life. How much more should our self-image be repaired after the disclosure of infidelity? After betrayal trauma enters the picture, our lives seem to completely unravel, and we find ourselves looking for any handle to hold onto in order to merely survive. As we begin to find our footing again after discovery or disclosure, we're in need of concrete strategies to heal and find meaning and purpose again, especially if the relationship doesn't survive. Today you'll hear five ways to repair our self-image after an affair, for both the unfaithful and the betrayed partner.
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