Harboring Hope | Affair Recovery

"I recently completed the Harboring Hope course. I was teamed up with a group of amazing women. I’m not the person who reaches out for help or talk about my feelings. I don’t currently have a relationship with God. So why did I find myself signing up for this course and stepping out of my comfort zone? I was hesitant, but I wanted any kind of guidance I could get. And I found it along with building a relationship with strangers that were going through similar struggles."

11/14/24

- V, from Delaware | HH Participant

"I think our group leader was so good at giving each of us space and moving us along. She is incredibly empathetic and present in these sessions."

10/24/24

- C.O., MA | HH Participant

"When I first began the course, I was broken, lost, and unsure if healing was even possible. My husband’s infidelity had shattered my world, and I didn’t know if I would ever be able to move forward. Harboring Hope became a lifeline for me during that time. I wasn’t just learning how to navigate the pain, I was surrounded by a community of others who truly understood what I was going through. It was in that space that I felt less alone and more empowered to start the journey of recovery."

9/12/24

- P.K. Texas | HH Participant

"It's so good to be in this small group and to see that other women are going through the same things that I'm going through. I wish that I would have done this 6 years ago."

9/9/24

- R.R., AR | HH Participant

"The whole course was well thought it and I really appreciate this course. I felt lost when I started and it is nice to see light at the end of the tunnel now."

9/9/24

- J.H., CO | HH Participant

"Hearing the vulnerability of the leaders and group really set the tone, especially for not feeling alone. Grateful for the experience of the group leader and the hope in his story."

8/20/24

- C.L., NY | HH Participant

"Our Group Leader has such a personal way of including in her testimony and her prayer every member of our group. She also is able to verbalize our emotions and feelings when often we have a tough time formulating the words. She’s wonderfully supportive and kind."

7/23/24

- C.W., TX | HH Participant

"It is all sooooo good, so soothing, so understanding, so encouraging. "

7/23/24

- J.C., Australia | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope has been a God-send! It was exactly what I needed to participate in at the most devastating period of my life. I am so grateful for the materials, our group leader, and the women in my group who made me feel safe sharing and gave me hope that I could recover. I was devastated when I learned of my husband's affair. We had been married 32 years, have three kids and four grandchildren and were happily married, so I had thought. I had no idea this man that I love, and with whom I built a life could do this. It was the last thing in the world I thought could happen to me, to us. Thankfully, I found Affair Recovery on-line. "

6/3/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Our Group Leader was just amazing at her active listening and the way she shares other options or ideas is truly beautiful. She offers suggestions with so much grace and also allows for such kindness. I have been very blessed by the way she leads our group! The curriculum is really good. It helped so much. I feel so much more healed in many ways while also knowing I will continue to grow and heal as I have many more tools in my hands now. Thank you!!!"

5/29/24

- S.E., AK | HH Participant

"This course has been one of the best things I have ever done. Well done to the writers Lesley and John."

5/15/24

- M.P., Unlisted | HH Participant

"I can't say enough good things about how helpful this group has been in my journey of recovery. I especially want to give a shout out to our group leader for his tremendous support and guidance. I feel extremely lucky to have met him. You should feel proud to have him on your team."

4/30/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Even though I felt blindsided and thought I had a good marriage, it turns out that my marriage wasn’t as great as I perceived and the reality of the affair was an awakening as to how broken we really were. Whether I was headed for divorce or try to stay together, either path was going to require healing and learning how to build a greater loving relationship. This programs help toward healing is incredible. For that reason alone, Affair Recovery, in my opinion, is the right first move for anyone that has experienced an affair. We both joined the program unsure where our marriage was heading. I was amazed how the course offered specific programs for the each side of an affair and programs for couples that are considering staying together. To hear that the goal for marriages that want to try to stay together wasn’t to restore the existing marriage because that marriage was broken seemed logical. Then came the unimaginable... with time and effort a "new marriage" could be forged that could be better than we ever had. We decided that’s what we wanted, try for a better us. Thanks to Affair Recovery we are on that path."

4/24/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Knowing my anger is cover for sadness is helping me think through more things I've kept buried. This was a hard chapter, but helpful in recovery."

4/3/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Thanks again to my Group Leader for all your prayers, support, wisdom and guidance. You are an amazing role model for me and the other men in our group! Thank you for choosing to use your pain and suffering to help others. May God bless you and your family always."

4/3/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Our Group Leader is great, more than I expected. He genuinely cares, easy to talk to, and has a lot personal experiences to share which helps with my healing."

3/21/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"It's nice to know I am not crazy and that someone who has been through this too can relate and provide their side as well."

3/5/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"It was encouraging to know that it's possible to make it onto the other side of recovery and what that may look like. Leslie and John's honesty and compassion in this week's video and in the past ones have given me strength and hope for the future. Our group leader led us so well, creating a safe place for us to share honestly and be vulnerable with each other."

3/5/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"So far, I am so glad to know there are other women like me that understand my betrayal and grief."

2/22/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I believe our Group Leader was vulnerable, well spoken, and honest. He established healthy and respectful boundaries. Hearing his story gave me hope because of his ability to discuss his struggles without embarrassment even when it was obvious that he was hurt, disappointed, and frustrated with his wife's actions. His integrity showed through in his ability to praise his wife, thank her, and be loving towards her even after multiple betrayals and years of struggle. It definitely gave me hope for my marriage, the first hope I have had in many years. "

2/22/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"We all have varying stories, but we all had the common trial of betrayal and were in need of our own recovery and healing....I no longer suffer in silence and I have hope to work on our marriage. My husband is growing too and we are looking forward to taking more courses through AR in order to walk out our complete recovery and healing. Thank you so much. "

2/2/24

- S. NY | HH Participant

"It's nice to know I'm not alone."

1/30/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I'm so glad I took the chance and invested the money in doing Harboring Hope. It all seemed very overwhelming at first- I'm not usually a group person and I'm not even a practicing Christian, but once I got the materials and we started the sessions I saw immediately it was the best decision I could have made. You can't do it alone and having our wonderful group leader, the curriculum, and the other group members made it possible to endure the really hard work of healing. No one else really understood what I was going through and I felt so much better after every call. It's so easy to cope in destructive ways and to transmit your hurt to others and so the curriculum was extremely helpful in giving me positive nourishing advice that helped me stay true to who I know I am- a kind hearted person who chooses healing and hope and who does the hard stuff to get through the hard times. "

1/29/24

- J. Utah | HH Participant

"Forgiveness is amazing. This week's lesson brought out the best in everyone in the group. I'm very grateful for our Group Leader's grace-filled guidance."

1/8/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Thank you for making a way to relate to the God-esteem topic in the video for someone like myself who is atheist."

1/8/24

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I have hope for healing now, even though this is only my second session. I am so blessed our Group Leader and all the ladies that are speaking into my life. I am so grateful for this resource that I wish I had 16 years ago, but it's never too late. I know the journey ahead is still long and not easy, but I at least feel confident that I have hope to know how to go through the journey and not alone"

12/20/23

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I can't express how much more loved I feel by God after having done this chapter! For the first time in my life, I realize that I AM ENOUGH!!!"

12/20/23

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Thankful for this process. I feel like a different person compared to 12 weeks ago. Xoxo"

12/20/23

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Just when I understood I had my own unique path--apart from my husband's--to walk as the betrayed spouse, I found out about Harboring Hope. The course wrapped up a few days ago and when our group leader asked about takeaways from the final lesson, the word "honesty" came to mind. Harboring Hope and Affair Recovery are honest about what it takes to heal from infidelity. Honesty is exactly what someone most needs who has been wounded by the deception and secrets of betrayal."

12/18/23

- -C.S. | HH Participant

"When we're hurt and feel undeserving of our circumstances, it doesn't have to stay that way. God has countless ways to assist us, and fortunately, resources like affair recovery programs exist to aid us in navigating the pain and embarking on a journey of healing. We need not remain as victims; we must heal for those who care about us and avoid staying broken. Life isn't entirely devoid of hope. Harboring Hope can provide us with a positive perspective on life - 8/29/23"

8/29/23

- Michelle | HH Participant

"I just finished the Affair Recovery course, Harboring Hope. 20 years ago my husband had an affair. I was totally unprepared for the upending effect this has had on my life and our marriage. Our pastor advised us to attend a different marriage program. We spent time, money and countless hours trying to work through this, mainly on our own. Although some healing has been attained, I have been stuck for years. Realizing that I had received great benefit from personal recovery work in another area of my life, I searched "recovery from affairs" and I found Affair Recovery. For several months I watched videos and read articles and became convinced that I was possibly stuck because I had never dedicated myself to personal recovery concerning the affair. Harboring Hope was everything I had hoped it would be and more. I learned that I am only responsible for my own recovery. I would recommend this course to anyone traveling this painful journey. I would say, "don't wait, like I unknowingly did". There is great hope!"

9/28/22

- B., California | HH Participant

"I completed the Harboring Hope course after finding out about my husband's long-term sexual addiction and infidelity. I would recommend this course to anyone regardless of their story or stage in discovering a spouse's betrayal. I feel empowered and armed with a healthier way of coping with this, regardless of my spouse's choices, because of this course. Thank you so much, Affair Recovery team! "

9/22/22

- A., FL | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope brought me exactly what I needed. Other women, experiencing different types of infidelity yet all of us walking very similar paths, facilitated by a kind and empathetic leader who had been there. Our group melded together quickly, and I can honestly say I love these ladies, even though we have never ‘met’. It is so very validating to realize that what you are feeling and how you may be reacting is ’normal’. I love how Harboring Hope emphasizes God throughout every aspect of the program. I know I am deeply loved, worthy and ‘enough’. Whether you come out the other side of infidelity trauma with a reconciled and healing marriage, or whether you emerge realizing your marriage may be over but you as an individual are going to heal and be OK, Harboring Hope will guide you along the path of recovery and healing. If you are a betrayed spouse and your crisis with infidelity is new, join Harboring Hope. If your crisis of infidelity happened a while ago (even years ago!) and you’ve been struggling to heal and feel stuck, join Harboring Hope. It is NOT too late! Affair Recovery has literally been a God-send."

9/22/22

- J., FL | HH Participant

"Highly recommend the program… seems like there were some common nuggets of information our group took away but also each person found individual value based on their story and where they are along the healing journey."

9/19/22

- H., Canada | HH Participant

"I am so thankful for my Harboring Hope Group Leader, as well as the founders and leaders of this company! This course has been a healing part of my recovery and I plan to reference to and reread the chapters as needed!"

9/19/22

- A., IN | HH Participant

"Last meeting. Bittersweet. I will miss the weekly interaction and support from all the women. I look forward to continuing the support on our own. I am truly grateful for Harboring Hope and our leader. It has changed my life. I truly think everyone could benefit from this program, infidelity or not. Many great general life tools!"

9/6/22

- K.S., OH | HH Participant

"I can't say thank you enough to fully reflect my gratitude for this course, for my Group Leader, and for the overall experience in the midst of a horrible season of life. Affair Recovery and Harboring Hope have been truly a Godsend."

8/8/22

- F.B., Canada | HH Participant

"Learned a lot of things that help me to move forward and not stay stuck. Had a very loving and patient leader and have found myself having a better view of my future no matter what happens in my marriage."

6/23/22

- G.E., AL | HH Participant

"This program has been WONDERFUL and I've grown and learned so much from it. The biggest reason is our leader, who set the tone for being vulnerable and sharing, giving us a safe place to say things and explore things deep within us that, for me, I hadn't addressed or even knew existed. I can't say enough positive things about this group and how thankful I am that I took a gamble and tried it. THANK YOU!"

5/2/22

- H., TX | HH Participant

"Our group leader has been excellent. She has helped all of us navigate through one of the hardest circumstances in my life. I knew when I signed up that I was going outside my comfort zone but I have no regrets in doing so. She has made the class very beneficial. I’m also very thankful for the ladies in our group."

5/2/22

- H., TX | HH Participant

"I am so grateful for this course! Every lesson speaks directly to where I am right now in my betrayal recovery journey! I also so appreciate John and Leslie's compassionate perspective in developing and presenting this curriculum. I feel understood and not alone."

4/25/22

- C., Manitoba, Canada | HH Participant

"I am grateful for our Group Leader's transparency, humility and leadership through this process as well as the curriculum. Both were a powerful combination in my healing journey and much needed. I will continue to use the tools and wish it were a little longer. I hope I can be a blessing to others in a similar fashion in my own faith walk. Thank you for this incredible work and I hope God blesses you more than any of you can ever imagine!"

2/14/22

- W.L., NY | HH Participant

"So grateful for this class and all the group leaders. Each week I grow more in understanding that God has my back no matter what. I thank God for Affair Recovery, you all do life changing work! God Bless You All!!"

1/31/22

- B., FL | HH Participant

"I just finished the Harboring Hope course. It was an encouragement to me to share the heartaches with other women that understand the deep pain you are going through. We all have things we are working on with God's help. Recognizing our insecurities and being vulnerable with each other helped to ease the burden I have felt after betrayal and now divorce. "

1/31/22

- J., WI | HH Participant

"Wonderful and very compassionate. What an amazing program to help us heal no matter what the outcome will be, we are in a great place! Thank you and God Bless You All!"

1/11/22

- B., FL | HH Participant

"I really look forward to our calls each week. Our group leader is wonderful in helping us feel comfortable, validated in our feelings and so encouraging. I’m really thankful for this course."

1/11/22

- S., CA | HH Participant

"I found the content for this week‘s chapter on letting go to be incredibly helpful. Understanding that letting go is a process instead of a “one time thing“ it makes it so much more manageable and achievable in my mind. This week’s call with my small group was also so helpful. The ladies brought up so many fantastic points that I hadn’t even thought of, which makes me feel that my recovery will be more thorough and complete than it would have been if I were trying to do this on my own or even individually with a therapist. Seeing the situation from so many different perspectives is amazing. And our group leader was again an outstanding facilitator. From her supportive posts on our small group wall to the insight and guidance she provides during our call, having her as our leader is a tremendous blessing."

1/11/22

- S., FL | HH Participant

"I am so glad that I did the Harboring Hope course. My mentor was amazing and all the ladies were so courageous. It was great to know that I am not alone and I am not going crazy. I learned that I will be okay no matter what the future holds. Recovery is about taking baby steps and I am glad that I am a lot of steps further than I was before taking this course. I can definitely see a bright future ahead of me."

12/6/21

- J., South Africa | HH Participant

"Types of Affairs was a very informative, insightful topic. Difficult info but valuable for the long haul. Our leader beautifully navigates an engaged, talkative 😉 group. Very warm and inclusive. Time goes too fast and I look forward to each week - pretty amazing considering the awful topic. "

10/25/21

- N.P., FL | HH Participant

"I completed Harboring Hope to pursue healing after discovering my husband had been repeatedly sexually unfaithful before, during and after my first pregnancy. The course helped normalize what I was feeling (sadness, numbness, anger) and helped point to a way forward. It emphasized my healing, regardless of the decision I make about my marriage. The course content was encouraging, as was connecting with other women going through similar things. I appreciate that Affair Recovery only chooses facilitators who have experienced infidelity. My facilitator's oft repeated quote "If a perfect marriage were required to prevent infidelity, everyone would be doomed" took away some of the remaining self-blame. I can be responsible for how I show up in relationship, but I am NOT responsible for my mate's infidelity. I highly recommend this course, whether you recently discovered your mate's infidelity or whether you've been on this journey a while."

10/22/21

- A,. Iowa | HH Participant

"My Group Leader and these ladies make my week a little brighter, make me breathe a bit lighter and make me have a glimmer of hope."

10/19/21

- M.M., WI | HH Participant

"It was a year an a half after D day that I found the Harboring Hope course. Before that I tried everything, therapy, meditation and reading copious amounts of books. They all helped, but the group of guys all in the same boat as me with the beautifully crafted course material was what really has launched me from surviving to thriving. I feel like I got my life back and am feeling heard, seen and supported. Thank you very much for this beautiful gift to us betrayed men."

10/11/21

- R., South Carolina | HH Participant

"The opportunity this group has given me is such a ray of light during the most challenging time in my life. Thank you AR!"

9/27/21

- B.E., TX | HH Participant

"This course has been instrumental in my coming to the point that I could let go of the past hurt and let God be in control of the situation. Taking EMS Online laid a great foundation before taking Harboring Hope. It was such a blessing to have participated in this course with Rachel as the leader and the six women who were in the group. There is no doubt that God put this wonderful group of ladies together at the right time in our lives!"

9/20/21

- R. North Carolina | HH Participant

"This week’s lesson was about how to find meaning in our suffering. This journey through the pain of infidelity has resulted in a healthier perspective of my persevering through the trials of my life. God has used this experience to show me how I could be in the present moment even with all its imperfection."

9/20/21

- R. North Carolina | HH Participant

"It really helps to have a group leader that has gone through the pain of infidelity. A leader that hadn't just wouldn't be the same."

9/17/21

- T., Ohio | HH Participant

"I was so unsure when I clicked the 'buy' button on Harboring Hope. I was anxious, scared and also worried that I was spending money I might need. However, I can honestly say it was the best decision I made. Harboring Hope has been a lifeline when my ship was wrecked and I thought I would drown. I never thought I would be able to laugh again, but I have been able to do just that. I truly believe that the HH course has been the difference to me still being here today to tell my story. Thank you. "

9/10/21

- A., United Kingdom | HH Participant

"I just completed Harboring Hope. I am currently in the process of recovering from my husband’s year long physical affair with a coworker. It has been challenging but also quite a growth experience. I wish I had known before taking the class how much I would look forward to the weekly calls and the relationships that have been built. Our leader was kind, encouraging, and incredibly supportive. I would highly recommend anyone going through this awful experience to seek out the support of this group experience."

9/10/21

- G., VA | HH Participant

"I just can't say enough good things about both the curriculum and my group leader. It has been just such a refreshing cool drink of water with Leslie and John's workbook and video series. Finally, an approach for betrayed spouses that doesn't do more harm via a therapist.. They are truly insightful and responsible with the brokenhearted. My group leader is such a blessing. She has taken her brokenness and used it as a healing balm for the women in our group."

9/7/21

- K.J., WA | HH Participant

"Our Group Leader was an excellent leader. She always made me feel relaxed, reassured & hopeful. Yet she expressed how much she understood and didn’t sugarcoat. Thank you to her & thank you AR - & Leslie & John for this program. It is a life changer."

8/30/21

- A.R., IA | HH Participant

"As usual, it is EXCELLENT!! It is the highlight of my week!! Our leader is so faithful to write on our wall with words of encouragement. Bringing us together as a sisterhood, helping us share our burdens. Working through our journey. The curriculum is top notch!! I have been searching for this exact balance of "no judgement" zone.. stay or don't stay.. but heal.. This is the only place that I have found it.. 4 counselors and dozens of books and 20 years!!! Thank you God for my Group Leader, Leslie and John!"

8/30/21

- K.J., WA | HH Participant

"Always excellent. I look forward to each week. The curriculum is both tough and gentle, if that makes any sense. It is so valuable! This class has afforded me the comradery that I have so needed for decades, that even my dearest of lifelong friends have not been able to give to me. It is just the shared pain that this sisterhood brings that allows us to not bring judgement, but rather a healing balm for each other. Our leader is so prepared every week, she is awesome! The pain that she personally suffered from the personal betrayal in her own life has not been wasted. She brings such wisdom and comfort to each one of us. I know we are all so grateful for her! She is just terrific! "

8/23/21

- K.J., WA | HH Participant

"I LOVE this group. When I’m talking with these ladies it’s the most normal I’ve felt since D-Day."

8/23/21

- K.J., TX | HH Participant

"I find that the curriculum is really spot on. We are only in the first chapter, but already it is getting into issues that I have been trying to get counselors to address for years, but they just don’t seem to have any understanding of the trauma of betrayal."

8/16/21

- D.H., NC | HH Participant

"I have been so grateful for this group during this dark time in my life. I am truly grateful for AR's resources, Leslie & John, and my particular group. Thank you and thank you again. I am so so grateful!"

8/16/21

- A.K., CA | HH Participant

"This week's work was incredibly helpful. I had a breakthrough in letting go of my husband's healing. Thank you!"

7/26/21

- B.H., IN | HH Participant

"I appreciate the Group Leader and the curriculum. Both help me understand the trauma I am experiencing. I'm thankful too for the strong, beautiful women in my support group."

7/26/21

- M.R., HI | HH Participant

"We had a wonderful group leader, always kind and validating. My group was wonderful. I am praying for the beautiful recovery sisters as they continue their journey of healing. The curriculum was very helpful. I am encouraged to know how much that God loves me and He will help me as I lean into Him. I want to come to complete forgiveness of my husband and all the women he had sexual encounters with in God’s time. I have learned that I need to grieve well and that forgiveness is not cheap. It is costly to my soul and God is greater than any evil power that wishes me harm. God is able. I can trust Him. Thank you for this course and for continued access to the library. It has been very helpful in my healing journey. Many blessings."

7/26/21

- M.B., IN | HH Participant

"Our Group Leader was an absolutely outstanding leader for our group - always so sensitive, caring, and understanding of everything that we discussed. I will really miss this as we move forward with our small group. The curriculum was so amazing and eye opening. Even though I have a long road ahead in my recovery, I have learned so much through this program and I plan to constantly refer back to the book as I am healing. In fact, my spouse (who is taking their own AR course) and I plan to go through both our books together as part of OUR recovery. Thank you so much for this excellent program. We desperately needed it and are so thankful that we were led to Affair Recovery."

7/26/21

- J.B., OR | HH Participant

"I started Harboring Hope because of my spouse's infidelity. During the course, I learned: 1) How my affair had hurt my spouse. How I wished we had gotten help for our marriage. 2) How the things I was feeling were normal. 3 ) It was sad/good to have others dealing with the same thing at the same time. 4) That you can’t just expect it — pain, thoughts, anger and bitterness — to go away. 5) That counseling is a good thing. 6) Last, but really should be first, God’s plan may not be what I want."

7/19/21

- C., California | HH Participant

"The Harboring Hope course was very beneficial to me, and it helped me to understand how I was feeling. I looked forward to my weekly chats with the people in my class and being able to have a forum where I was free to share. There were times during the course that the other women shared about their husbands doing the work and being supportive … I think my own recovery from my husband’s betrayal would be easier if he was involved and didn’t make fun of me for turning to strangers for help. After 35 years of marriage, I am at a crossroads and have a decision to make, which is something that I don’t want to do. But I do know that I will be OK, a little banged up and bruised but I will be OK, especially knowing that the tools the course has given me will help me to overcome my husband’s betrayal. Thank you for your ministry; I watch the videos and am learning slowly that this is not my fault. "

7/14/21

- O., California | HH Participant

"Both the rich and material and the videos are very helpful. When paired with the follow-up questions and our small group, they lead to greater understanding of the process. I can say in earnest that the 7-day boot camp, the materials on the website, and Harboring Hope are helping me. The greatest help though is the support you're providing to my husband. He is making himself vulnerable and accessible and honest in a way that I've never seen before. I thank God for your work and want to get the message out to so many people about the support you provide."

7/13/21

- B. IN | HH Participant

"This class really did help me in finding hope. I learned to manage my extreme anger. Our group leader advised and reminded me to journal my thoughts and I was amazed at how helpful that was. Somehow she also got into my head because I always had the problem of being uncomfortable when going places with my husband, and how he would always double take or be gazing at other women. After this class, I am more comfortable and not really worried about that!! WOW!!! I haven't even looked at my husbands call logs in a few months! I am working on keeping myself healthy and I learned so much. My life is better and I came away with a lot of tools to help me heal! Thank you to my group leader and Harboring Hope. I totally recommend this to anyone going through betrayal."

7/6/21

- M. TX | HH Participant

"So impactful taking Harboring Hope! The lessons in there should be taught overall. Well worth the time and another step to healing. Thank you!!!!"

6/28/21

- I., Colorado | HH Participant

"This has been the best experience on my journey to recovery. I had almost completely lost my faith and hope but my group has helped me find it again. Thank you!!!"

6/14/21

- E.B., WA | HH Participant

"Sad that next week is our final session. So grateful for this group, participants, and our leader. Presently appreciating the comfort I am finding and courage to break isolation and address loneliness."

6/7/21

- C.W., CA | HH Participant

"I discovered my husband’s infidelity and porn addiction 15 years into our marriage. It felt like the ground was removed from under my feet. My whole perception of reality was taken from me. I felt broken, lost and honestly didn't have much hope for ever feeling "normal" again. I heard about Affair Recovery through a friend who had gone through infidelity and sexual addiction in her marriage. After two more discoveries and my husband signing up for Hope for Healing, I signed up for Harboring Hope. Like most women who join the betrayed spouse side of things, I started out hurt and upset that I was forced into a healing I never asked for. Right from the first chapter, I found language for what I was going through. Not only was I suddenly not so alone, but I also had people who understood the absolute train wreck of emotions I was feeling. Every chapter, though painful, offered me a choice: to heal or to stay put. I'll admit, I have a long way to go, but every week brought truth and clarity to me. In a time when everything feels about as clear as mud, Harboring Hope really helped me find some stable ground again."

6/4/21

- M., Canada | HH Participant

"Great conversation today! Week 2 - and it feels like I learned more about the group participants, we are so much more than our painful stories."

6/1/21

- C.C., Canada | HH Participant

"I am so extremely sad that our course is over. I learned much more than I ever expected and I have grown more than I ever expected. Our group leader was nothing short of amazing!! So funny, so real, so empathic and loving. I will miss her tremendously. Our mentor will be an amazing leader. She was a wealth of information and inspiration!! I am really going to miss my group."

5/23/21

- L. Illinois | HH Participant

"Since my now ex-husband told me about his infidelity and left, the decision to complete Harboring Hope has been one of the best ones I have made. While I embarked on the journey of recovery hand in hand with God and a few trusted friends, I knew I would definitely benefit from people who have walked this painful path before me. What convinced me that Affair Recovery was the right choice is the fact that they are a Christian, Christ-centred ministry of trained people who have walked through the pain of betrayal themselves and come out on the other side successfully. I have loved every single session of HH. It has really helped me to understand better why the affair happened in the first place and why it's not my fault. Because I needed to answer the sometimes difficult questions in the workbook, it also encouraged me to journal and walk through the grief and pain with God rather than avoid it. It was also fantastic to be able to talk at the small group and know that I am not alone on the path of recovery. Finally, I absolutely loved that the whole course was filled with so much hope and encouraged me to trust in God and keep Him at the center of my healing journey. Likewise, I found the topics very relevant and helpful. Last but not least, I found it very easy to complete the course from outside of the United States and connect with my small group based in the U.S. Thank you so much for the amazing work you are doing at Affair Recovery, I am so grateful!"

5/19/21

- J., United Kingdom | HH Participant

"I just completed the Harboring Hope program. My husband was unfaithful to me emotionally, physically and sexually with a co-worker. What I wished I would’ve known is that forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things. People who refuse to forgive can never live their own lives, they are too busy obsessing about the life of the one who hurt them. They are stuck. They are unable to enjoy friends, family or even their children. They imprison themselves in a bondage of their own making. I definitely recommend the Harboring Hope program as a support for healing. To be in a safe community with other women who know what you’re going through and how you’re feeling is comforting. Whether you’re able to reconcile or not, there is hope. The program provides a lot of supportive articles and videos, which I have watched and found encouragement in to help with understanding and healing my pain."

4/29/21

- M., Michigan | HH Participant

"In June 2019, my husband of 40 years told me that he’d been having an affair. He also admitted that he became addicted to watching pornography during his affair. After much soul-searching on both of our parts, we decided to attempt to save our marriage. We saw a marriage counselor and individual counselors. In many ways, our marriage became better than ever, but I still had so much hurt. That’s when I began to look online for support groups and found Harboring Hope. Harboring Hope is appropriately named because that’s exactly what the course did for me — it gave me hope, hope that I could heal and hope that our marriage could survive and even thrive. Although the course is written from a religious viewpoint, it’s easily applicable to anyone. A few of us were working on our marriages, and two women were healing on their own. Our group leader had experienced betrayal, a divorce and then a reconciliation, so she was definitely able to relate to all of us. I would definitely recommend Harboring Hope to any betrayed spouse who is looking for healing. It's wonderful to be with a group of people who understand your pain and are all striving to heal."

4/28/21

- D., Iowa | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope has been the wisest choice I've made since learning about my husband's affairs and addiction. For over six months, I tried doing it on my own. I wish I hadn't let my shame and brokenness keep me away because WOW! The Harboring Hope group was exactly what my soul needed: to be validated; a safe place to tell my story, to cry and, yes, to laugh; and know I wasn't alone. My story isn't over and yours isn't either. Join a Harboring Hope group and find hope and love!"

4/16/21

- D., Michigan | HH Participant

"I have looked forward to meeting with our group each week. It has been an oasis in my wilderness. The material in the course has been so helpful. I have learned so much. It has been life changing. The road ahead for me does look long but I feel much better equipped and I do have hope. Thank you."

4/7/21

- P.H./Canada | HH Participant

"My husband has cheated off and on for 25 years of our marriage and recently admitted as much. This course helped to level my bad temper, raging anger and other emotions a betrayed goes through. It got me to slow down and consider all my options before using a knee-jerk reaction. I would recommend Harboring Hope to anyone who is lost looking for hope. You will come away with the strength to do what will be right for you!"

3/31/21

- L., Texas | HH Participant

"Affair Recovery played a significant role in my healing process. My experience throughout the 13 weeks of Harboring Hope was great. I looked forward to my meeting every Sunday. My group leader was such a phenomenal, wonderful lady. I got so much out of this course. I didn’t know that at the end of the program, total strangers would become my confidants and sisters — this was a welcome surprise. Thank you, Affair Recovery, for putting this program together. It’s done miracles for me. I learned that my pain is real, that I am not crazy, I will be alright eventually, and that I can heal alone … I can tell you that healing is possible, but the process takes time and effort. I am committed to the process, despite its ups and downs, until I achieve my goals."

3/31/21

- J., Nigeria | HH Participant

"I joined Harboring Hope after applying for a bursary and was amazed to get one, and thankful to God/universe for making it happen, as it was so needed ... I had to retell my story, which is always the hardest part, but after getting through that, getting the motion going and getting to know the ladies in the group and our Group Leader — whom we all grew to love as we saw her as our Mommy Bear — I was always cheered on and motivated along this journey every step of the way. I gained so much respect for each lady in the group and their stories that brought them here ... It's nice knowing that there are others out there going through the same battle as us, and that we are not alone. "

3/23/21

- L. South Africa | HH Participant

"Our group leader continues to educate and heal herself, while encouraging and inspiring us all the way. I’m truly grateful for Affair Recovery. I found this site quite a while ago, so I’m not new to this journey and your beautiful group of people who validate me with the blogs, writings, personal stories, and general understanding of so much. Continue the good work. I know this site has saved so many people trying to hang on. I have known from day one that I needed the support from people like me, and should have reached out sooner. But at the same time I feel like I drug my feet to be part of this beautiful group of women that I landed with. I’m sorry this is our last week and am hoping that we all move forward together. "

3/10/21

- K. NJ | HH Participant

"I'm surprised every time I study the week's material - about how deep and strategically placed it is among all the issues that need to be processed."

3/1/21

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Really valuable information about Forgiveness. I gained more clarity about what Forgiveness really means and the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation."

3/1/21

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I am a 32 year old newlywed who never expected to end up here. My husband began his affair with his ex-girlfriend just 3 months after our wedding when she messaged him on Instagram to ask "How's married life?" Harboring Hope has given me the tools to confront the betrayal head-on, outwardly and inwardly, and a community of other women who know exactly how I feel. I've learned how to grieve, and how to really feel those scary emotions like anger and sadness, and allow them to transform me. I've learned what forgiveness really means and what it doesn't mean. I've learned to be vulnerable and ask for help. I've learned about what trauma does to your brain and body, and how I can create a sense of safety in my life again. The most important lesson I learned: you did not deserve to be hurt the way you did, but it is your job to pick yourself up and learn how to walk again. You will be so proud of yourself once you do! "

2/25/21

- C. Minnesota | HH Participant

"This week's lesson was so impactful and eye opening for me personally! I am very grateful for this incredible group of women to walk this journey with and very thankful for Harboring Hope!"

2/15/21

- V.P., MI | HH Participant

"After completing Harbouring Hope, I wasn’t sure that I was in a place to be able to encourage others. But, I want to tell you if it weren’t for Affair Recovery, I literally do not know where I would be...I was and still am determined to not let what my husband has done to make me into a bitter person. I would strongly encourage everyone that has had the misfortune of experiencing this most gut-wrenching pain to join Harbouring Hope."

2/9/21

- K. MO | HH Participant

"I was introduced to Affair Recovery by a friend from church who completed the program years ago. She was trying to help me through my husband's recent infidelity. I had just been married for 5 months when he first admitted to cheating...I felt like if he just never did it again we would be fine...However, things quickly started to reveal itself and fast forward to 4 months later and my husband's girlfriend of almost 3 years shows up at my doorstep...In the midst of this I found out I was pregnant, my husband promised he was no longer in a relationship with the other woman....One quiet tearful night alone I finally logged onto Affair Recovery and signed up for the free 7 day boot camp. Answering those questions showed me I needed Affair Recovery more than I thought. Although my husband's infidelity was his choice and problem, healing from it in a healthy way was my responsibility. Going over the questions showed me I wasn't doing that and desperately needed to heal correctly. One thing that stood out to me was the 20 mistakes the betrayed spouse made, I had made almost all of them if not all. I wish I would have had this list sooner and I would have known to try and avoid these mistakes. The Harboring Hope small group was great. I got to bond with other women going through betrayal like me. They helped me not feel crazy when I shared my story. They comforted me through the pain of being pregnant and my husband not being around. The workbook was so helpful, especially the lessons on forgiveness and finding meaning in your suffering. I know I will go back to that workbook for refreshing and encouragement as I continue through this season in my marriage. I would highly recommend Affair Recovery to anyone going through betrayal. I have actually already suggested it to quite a few women. I encourage any betrayed spouse to partake in Affair Recovery, it's such a great support system with so many different resources. There's videos, forums to ask questions from others, and of course the best part Harboring Hope. I encourage you that even though things may feel out of your control, the one thing that is in your control is your healing! Affair Recovery will help you take a step closer to gaining that control. "

2/4/21

- C.T., NY | HH Participant

"What Harboring Hope provided for me was a way for me to safely share my feelings regarding the infidelity with others who understood and were going through similar situations. It was almost like I had a weekly lunch date with some dear girl friends. The facilitator was excellent. Her job was not to provide therapy and advice, but to listen and to help the conversation move forward. The thing about infidelity, is it is something that we cannot share with everyone. And as we go through the grieving process, we often feel very alone. Unlike the passing of a loved one where everyone knows about it and they all gather around to help and support you, infidelity is something that is often experienced in isolation. Very few people know what happened and you can feel very alone. No one wants to grieve alone. I found myself looking forward to our Harboring Hope conversations more and more as each week passed. The weekly material that we were assigned to read and study prior to each class was also very helpful. The manual was excellent and helped us move through the process from understanding what happened with the affair, working through feelings of anger and sorrow, and eventually hoping to forgive and create a new life with or without our spouses. Moving forward, the ladies and I have exchanged our email addresses and we will continue to meet via zoom monthly in order to continue to provide support for one other. We are all still on the road to recovery but do not have to walk it alone. "

2/4/21

- N. R., MO | HH Participant

"The first week is emotional and the Group Leader made everyone feel comfortable in sharing this most difficult time and experience with one another. She made it a "safe place" right away with her gentle words and comfort."

2/1/21

- S.F., FL | HH Participant

"The curriculum was right on point ! You guys know what you're doing, that's for sure! I'm so thankful I can try to move forward in my life."

1/20/21

- R.S., CA | HH Participant

"Curriculum is very good. I’ve been going down this road for a long time now. I should have done this sooner and I feel like it’s making me see and admit this whole situation more clearly and making me move to more acceptance finally. Our group leader has been beautiful and caring and real. I have to say the same about our mentor. It’s nice to have both these women caring for my heart. For all of our hearts. Everyone in the group have been beautiful as well. I’m sorry for them but at same time happy for all the good company I am finally holding. Thank you for this program and Affair recovery.com. It’s been my loving friend for a long time now."

1/14/21

- K. New Jersey | HH Participant

"When I came to Affair Recovery I was desperate for some direction on how to deal with the overwhelming emotions that I was dealing with. I was married for 8 years to a man who had multiple affairs. He was unwilling to do the work in the relationship to heal from this betrayal and trauma so I decided I couldn't stay in the marriage. I divorced him and though that was it. I moved to another state and started over. I met a man and fell in love again. 4 years into the relationship I found out he had been having multiple affairs. I was devastated to be here again! I was so lost at what to do. In my marriage I had reached out to friends and family for their support and I found that this caused so much more confusion and trauma. I decided not to reach out to anyone that had never been through this before or never healed themselves. I started searching online for help and quickly found Affair Recovery...My first call with Harboring Hope was incredibly emotional and hard to get through but I was desperate and the women on the call were just like me, broken, looking for hope. I took comfort in this. I felt safe. The workbook and videos each week were full of wisdom, and understanding, and gentle guidance through the emotional roller coaster that is recovery. I am forever grateful for this organization, and for the men and women who have been through this before, taking the time out of the their own stories to help me heal. "

1/11/21

- A. New Jersey | HH Participant

"My husband of 13 years had a five-month emotional affair with a co-worker. I found out while he was on Facebook. He was unsure what he wanted to do, whether to stay or go. I was determined to work on our marriage. After 7 months of hard work, communication, and going through Harboring Hope, I can proudly say that we are at a better place than I ever thought possible. We still have a long way to go, but this class has been a start of greater communication for our marriage. Harboring Hope has been the catalyst to a new and improved relationship not only with my husband but also with God. I have found that I do NOT always have to control things, that God is there to help me see the light through the darkness. I just have to stop and listen and allow true healing to occur. Throughout the 13 weeks of Harboring Hope - I have been come a stronger woman. I have read each chapter, allowing God back into my life, and examining my pain. If it wouldn't have been for our group leader and the women of the group, I would not have seen the "light." They were supportive and kept things in perspective for me. I will always cherish their comments of love and support. Even if my marriage does not survive, I know that with the help of Harboring Hope, Leslie, and John, as well as my group members, I will survive! Through the roughest and toughest of times, you are worthy of LOVE and being cherished. I would HIGHLY recommend this course to anyone seeking guidance while trying to survive an infidelity crisis. It has been a life saver! "

12/29/20

- H. Pennsylvania | HH Participant

"The curriculum was spot on. It gave me a totally new way to approach forgiveness along with supporting steps to take getting there."

12/16/20

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"This class was awesome! In spite of the pain we are all going through, we were actually able to laugh a little as we addressed delicate issues related to infidelity. It was our last class but I am glad we are not just saying goodbye, but we are continuing to stay in touch and be there for each other. Thank you to my Group Leader for your ears and support. You are awesome! Thank you 😊"

12/14/20

- I.K.,CA | HH Participant

"This whole experience has helped me understand better the healing that I need to do. It has helped bring up grief that I need to process - that I was minimizing - as well as tools to help me balance that with joy and a better relationship with God. I can feel my feelings without getting so stuck in them - and hopefully can be a help to others with increased kindness and compassion and an avoidance of things that are not healthy for me. Thanks to my Group Leader and all women in group brave enough to do the work"

12/11/20

- L.Z., CT | HH Participant

"I will recommend [Harboring Hope] to anyone unfortunate enough to experience betrayal by a spouse. It was helpful to go through the prepared material with women who have the same pain and were as bewildered as I at their spouses behavior. My group leader was always supportive, offering heartfelt understanding."

12/8/20

- S. Texas | HH Participant

"Each week, the material really hits home. As much as I would like for this to be over and on to totally better days, your course gives many pictures of complete healing and what that takes. Many times, the pain is at an intensity level I've never experienced and your rich vault of wisdom explains what is more than likely happening. Thank you and God bless you!!>>"

11/25/20

- S.S., SC | HH Participant

"This Harboring Hope Recovery Course for Betrayed Spouses was a Godsend! The curriculum helped me to understand what I've been experiencing and gave me some clarity on how to manage my pain and begin recovery. The weekly phone calls were so very helpful because everyone in the group understood the pain and was empathetic. I recommend this course to anyone who is suffering from betrayal... My faith was shaken and this course acknowledged that wrestling with God about the pain I suffered was normal and to be expected, but not to give up hope that I would heal with God alongside me. This book is not a cure-all but a faith-based way to begin the journey of recovery instead of tucking the pain away and moving into denial-only to have the pain to come back with a vengeance later. Recovery will take much longer than the 12 weeks of this course, but it showed me how to "do my own recovery work". I am definitely going to start my book again (right away) from the beginning and work through each lesson again and again until it really begins to become a part of me so that I can move forward with hope. I am so grateful for this course!"

11/24/20

- D. Hawaii | HH Participant

"A very productive group call. Everyone is so supportive of one another and I really look forward to my calls. I can actually laugh out loud with these ladies, something I haven't done in months. :)"

10/7/20

- S.P., MI | HH Participant

"Affair Recovery resources literally saved my life...in my darkest hour of despair, after learning of my husband's affair. I enrolled in Harboring Hope for additional support and it was a tremendous help and enriching experience for me. I found encouragement, love and "hope" through a group of women who spoke the same language as me and who understood my pain. I highly recommend Harboring Hope for betrayed spouses!"

9/29/20

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I just completed the Harboring Hope program and it was a great resource for me, a betrayed wife. I always looked forward to my weekly phone call, knowing on the other end of that line were some amazing women that were going through the worst tragedy they could have ever imagined, just like me. Those phone calls, coupled with the lessons in the workbook, helped me find some stability when it felt like my life was spinning out of control. I highly recommend taking this course."

9/29/20

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I am very grateful I was introduced to AR and I enrolled in Harboring Hope. Right after I discovered that my husband had an affair I was devastated. I needed someone to talk to that would understand exactly what I am going through. For me the group from HH and the materials in the course were a blessing. I could understand so much more about the affair and about what it takes to heal. I would highly recommend. "

9/29/20

- Anonymous , FL | HH Participant

"Every week I feel we are connecting as a group. The women are becoming more vulnerable and sharing More than facts, but our stories. It’s weird that we have no visual faces to recognize each other BUT we know each other’s stories and pain. I’m 2 years and 10 months into our marriage restoration. I’ve never known other women who have been through this. This harboring hope group has already helped me heal. I pray for these women daily. My Group Leader has been fabulous!!! She is so tender to each woman and acknowledges their pain. This is exactly what I’ve been searching for almost three years. It’s a blessing to be part of this group. The ah ha moments keep coming. My husband is taking hope for healing and we are both so blessed by God to be doing this. Thank you so much!!!!!"

9/22/20

- T.S.-TN | HH Participant

"The grieving section was so hard!!!!! I love our group and our leader! It’s so helpful to hear everyone’s story’s and share our lives knowing we care so much for these ladies we have never physically met."

7/20/20

- B. Florida | HH Participant

"The curriculum creates so much awareness about what I am going through and brings so much guidance as I go through the process. I thank God for people who dedicate their lives to helping us find our way in the maze so difficult to untangle. God bless the Team! May your tribe increase!"

7/14/20

- J. NY | HH Participant

"I now have a better understanding of the psychology behind my husband's betrayal. For the first time, I get that it had nothing to do with me or faults in me. I struggled with feeling insecure for so long. I'm 18+ months out and I finally feel a weight lifted as I understand more and more."

7/8/20

- T, Wisconsin | HH Participant

"My husband is also in a recovery group with AR. We are on the same page, but not necessarily in the same place. I’m so thankful for AR. I don’t know where we would be without it. Thanks, you guys, for the sacrifices you make to help others recover. I’m expecting great things in our marriage."

6/12/20

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"This group is a life saver for me. So blessed to have found Affair Recovery."

5/19/20

- S. Texas | HH Participant

"Each week you learn something new and things are put in perspective. Healing is happening"

4/29/20

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I think it’s a really effective program ....... and would like to do it again when my life's in a little different place..... I would recommend it to anyone and I have:)"

4/29/20

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I wish I would have done this program sooner! It’s life changing! :)"

4/20/20

- T. TX | HH Participant

"I look forward to my group calls each and every week! Thank you for such an awesome experience of love and support at such a difficult time in life! "

3/10/20

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I attended Hope Rising 2019 and I completed Harboring Hope. Harboring Hope was just what I needed. It helped to shake me up. I felt like I had read everything out there on infidelity, but Harboring Hope is about healing independent of my husband's course. It's not just about the trauma (oh I had that), it's about moving beyond trauma. Week by week in Harboring Hope, I could see that I had come a long way in my healing, but I also was able to identify the areas where I was still blocked from healing. During Harboring Hope I recognized resentments that I had toward past therapists, former affair partners who I did not know, the list goes on. I had let these resentments steal my energy, my joy, my power. I would encourage women who are considering Harboring Hope and thinking that it is too late, it was so long ago, I'm healed enough, etc, etc. to give it a try. Do it. You may be surprised as I was. I really am on my way to complete recovery."

3/3/20

- L. Texas | HH Participant

"I really like the options that are given in each chapter to let us know we may not be at that point yet. It gives us the grace to know that it is ok and the knowledge on how to go through it when we each get there. It is giving us tools for the present and future. Thank you for this wonderful program. It has both influenced my life and well being, along with the restitution process of my marriage. I will be forever great full!"

3/3/20

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Thank you for everything, both Harboring Hope and my Group Leader! It has been an amazing journey for me and helped me immensely in the past 3 months. I didn't think this course would have the impact it made in my life and recovery. This course has truly saved me and gave me the tools, strength and support to keep moving forward and not waiver at the immense pain that I feel and will continue to face. "

2/7/20

- Y. Canada | HH Participant

"I have just completed Harboring Hope. Almost one year ago I discovered that my wife had an affair. I was unable to heal or move out of the pain for 9 months. Then, I found Affair Recovery. I found hope in the online video blogs posted by Samuel on YouTube. It seemed like someone finally understood what I was going through. No therapist we visited was equipped to deal with our situation. The counselors and therapists that we had seen were not specialists in this field and although they meant well, It was like we had been visiting our general physician for a cancer of which they were not trained to treat. We signed up for the EMS Weekend where we experienced more healing in 3 days than we had in the previous 7 months. We left EMS Weekend with optimism. We had a plan, a prescription if you will. This recovery program had worked for many other couples and we now had people who specialized in our problem. I learned how to deal with the trauma I experienced, how to grieve the losses caused by the infidelity, how to forgive and finally how to let go of the pain and move forward. I don't know where I would be without Affair Recovery. I would recommend Affair Recovery to anyone who has been hit with the unfortunate circumstance of having to deal with infidelity in their life. This goes for the faithful as well as the betrayed. I have seen so much healing on both sides of the fence. Whether you are just finding out, or stuck in an unforgiving bitterness cycle that has taken over your life, there are people at Affair Recovery that can help you. Don't try and do this alone. There is hope and it's not just a program. These people care and will help you to not let such a devastating event define or destroy your life. Thank you to Affair Recovery for the healing I have received. I won't ever be able to repay it."

12/5/18

- S. TX | HH Participant

"I have been with Affair Recovery for over a year. After much searching online, I was giving up hope of finding a place that suited my needs as a betrayed husband. Married for 28 years but separated at the moment as my wife still shows no empathy nor has she recommitted to the marriage. She is still in an affair and discovery was almost three years ago. I finally signed up for Harboring Hope after listening to Rick and Samuel's many videos. I was nervous about spending money on Harboring Hope, especially after going to a couple of counselors that just made things worse. I was personally struggling with isolation and desperately trying to find which way was up and needed guidance with my thought process. Harboring Hope brought so much clarity! Hearing the stories of the guys in my group brought a sense of relief. They were part of my journey and our Group Leader was a regular guy that has experienced infidelity. They know what it feels like! I can say that I finally feel like I'm starting to heal even without help from my wife. I have a ways to go yet but Harboring Hope and the resources Affair Recovery provide are the best I know of or have found. Rick, Samuel, Leslie, John and my Group Leader from my Harboring Hope class . . . Thank you!!! God Bless you! One more thing. I know a couple of guys who have taken Harboring Hope more than once, and I now know why."

12/5/18

- G. FL | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope gave me the opportunity to bond with other betrayed women so I wouldn’t feel so isolated or alone. Typically, infidelity is a taboo topic of conversation, but Harboring Hope provided a safe environment in which to share our respective experiences. The course, as well as my faith, helped me to believe that in the long run I will be fine, regardless of the outcome of my marriage."

8/10/18

- R. CA | HH Participant

"Knowing that once a week I was going to have a safe place to work on my recovery, was my bright spot in some otherwise very dark and difficult weeks. Thank you Harboring Hope for helping me though."

8/10/18

- A. CO | HH Participant

"The content of Harboring Hope - the videos, and the coursework were key in helping me to find words and meaning to my suffering. It became a joy to devote time each week to healing and finding peace. Then discussing openly my feelings, my struggles, and my triumphs with others who knew exactly the pain I was experiencing was so indispensable. I left the calls each week smiling and feeling a sense of relief and encouragement. It really did "Harbor Hope" for me. "

8/10/18

- S. GA | HH Participant

"I found the videos and curriculum to be very helpful in dealing with the many facets of healing from my spouse’s infidelity, and the group calls were such a great place of venting, learning, encouragement, and support. I’m very thankful I could take this course."

8/10/18

- B. TX | HH Participant

"I cannot express how thankful I am that I enrolled in Harboring Hope. I had been looking at it for a while and the cost deterred me, but this course is truly priceless. I feel more hopeful for the future and closer to God than I can express. The workbook and instructors were so helpful, knowledgeable and it was all easy to read and listen to. The small group calls were one of the biggest blessings. Sharing my story and knowing I was in a safe space to be heard and have women know what I was going through meant the world to me. I'm going to miss this course and plan on re-reading it as soon as I'm done!"

8/10/18

- B. VA | HH Participant

"When I first found out about my husbands infidelity I thought my story is the worse story - the length, the actions, etc. There was shame with that discovery. But through Harboring Hope I found I was not alone, that others also understand the deep pain of the journey and can share empathy, encouragement and hope with you. "

8/10/18

- P. OH | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope was essential is helping deal with the loss and pain of my husbands 5 betrayal. Having others who had experienced this type of betrayal to discuss matters with was priceless."

8/10/18

- A. USA | HH Participant

"We embark on this journey we did not ask to take clueless as to how to recover. I found Harboring Hope to be a beacon in the darkness allowing me to begin my recovery journey in a healthy manner. "

8/10/18

- M. MN | HH Participant

"It was wonderful to be around other betrayed spouses who made me feel normal and didn't judge me, but only supported me. It was so helpful!"

8/10/18

- K. NH | HH Participant

"It was a game changer in my healing from betrayal to finally have a group of people comfortable with my pain and the amount of time it takes to heal. I couldn't work on the big picture when just day to day I felt abandoned, judged and afraid. It was an isolating process until I joined Harboring Hope."

1/19/18

- N. OR | HH Participant

"Before finding Harboring Hope, I was desperate in my situation. I knew of no other couples dealing with infidelity, and I felt so alone and isolated. It was comforting to have other women to share my feelings and pain with. Before the course, I felt like a normal life was over for me. Now I have hope for the future. "

1/19/18

- A. Canada | HH Participant

"In the face of betrayal, it seems impossible to take care of yourself - much less others around you. But Harboring Hope gives hurt spouses the opportunity to develop self-love and self-care on a journey of self-recovery. To any betrayed women or men out there, just know you are worth it and one of the best things you can do right now is take care of you by joining Harboring Hope! "

1/19/18

- A. TX | HH Participant

"It was astounding to see this process as I go along. Seeing myself at exactly the time I needed that particular lesson to get me on track or to remind me that’s not where I should be. This is definitely a process that needs to happen for both betrayed and betrayer. Thank you."

9/11/17

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Being in a group that understands and empathizes with the challenges of infidelity was a blessing. I needed people I could talk to without a filter and without tiptoeing through the recovery discussions with my wife. HH and my group was a life line for me."

6/23/17

- B. AK | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope walked me along my path of recovery after my husband's infidelity. It was helpful to talk with others experiencing similar emotions and struggles that I was feeling. Knowing that the facilitators, and everyone associated with Affair Recovery has been through infidelity, was reassuring. Everyone was very empathetic to me. I highly recommend this course! "

5/12/17

- K. PA | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope was a life saver for me. I looked forward to the readings and small group chats every week. Although our group was on a first name basis, I feel like I know have a group of ladies who have become apart of one another's lives."

5/12/17

- E. Canada | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope was incredibly healing for me. I finally was able to face the pain head-on and actually learn how to grieve, how to forgive, how to let go. Have I conquered these things now? No, but I have a path to move forward on, and sisters to walk with. I highly recommend this class. "

3/31/17

- A. Florida | HH Participant

"I thought that because the initial betrayal took place years ago, and even though I found out the truth only one year ago, that I should just ''get over it''. The feelings and emotions I was experiencing every moment, was destructive to me and my family. Harboring Hope brought me to a place of realization and help, that I NEVER thought I could be at. Thank you so much. This was a life saver for myself and my marriage."

3/31/17

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"I can'tell imagine how I would have gotten through my recovery without this course. I have gained insight, healing, and freedom. The curriculum was phenomenal! "

3/31/17

- T. Florida | HH Participant

"Awesome overall - there is so little help and real guidance out there for people in our situations. This program has been amazing - giving clear direction, addressing real issues and the wealth of experience and mentoring from people who have been there themselves makes it absolutely invaluable. Putting us in touch with people in the same situation, where we can hear others speak our truths validates our feelings and helps us make sense of what is happening. This program rescued me from a deep dark pit and got me moving forward, where 18 [months] of counselling had failed in every respect. Thank you thank you than kyou - you are life savers - keep doing what you do."

3/23/17

- V. New Zealand | HH Participant

"Anyone who reads this should invest in the Harboring Hope class and by doing so you are investing in your recovery. When I didn't know where to turn and it seems as if my individual counseling sessions where not deep enough for me to handle the infidelity along with my husbands sudden departure to go and be with his affair partner, I turned to the 13 week course. I am now at the end of the course and yes I am hesitant; however, I have the tools, guidance from God, and work book to refer to as well as 6 individuals that I have heard go through the same things that I have; therefore, I don't feel so alone now. I am able to keep in contact with them and I hope to be helping others in a year or two. Thank you Harboring Hope's Leslie and John."

3/22/17

- H. CO | HH Participant

"Well before this course i had no direction nor a real way to get my husband to cooperate, but this course provided so much insight."

7/1/16

- V. Canada | HH Participant

"At first I was unsure if HH was something that I wanted to commit to. I knew I needed something more than what I was getting from meeting weekly with my counselor, so I eventually decided to enroll. I feel God lead me to HH and it was exactly what I needed. In my darkest hours and when my world was turned upside down, I found support from others and a safe place to openly discuss my hurts and fears. I felt like I wasn't alone. There was power in sharing my story with others and hope that I would not remain in the valley of darkness forever. I am much stronger today than when I first began HH, and regardless of what will happen in my marriage, I have hope for my future and I know I will be ok. Thank you for offering HH, it has been an amazing blessing in my life and I am forever grateful! "

6/10/16

- J. KS | HH Participant

"The Affair Recovery website has become a touchstone for me since the revelation of my husband's affair 14 months ago. After nearly a year of suffering in isolation (having chosen not to reveal his affair to our family and friends) I joined Harboring Hope, and it has been truly life changing. Not only are the materials important, but the group itself is a tremendous help. Reading the book, taking the time to think through answers to the questions, really allowed me to process each step of recovery -- the disclosure of information, the depth of betrayal, the steps to take in healing. It is absolutely essential for a betrayed spouse to take the time for PERSONAL HEALING, rather than just focusing on healing the marriage. And having a group of women to talk to felt like a tremendous weight off of my shoulders. Each of circumstances was different, and yet we were all in the same boat together. I have found it very easy to blame myself for my husband's affair. And yet, when one of the women in my group did this, I leapt to her defense. When I realized this -- it isn't her fault that her husband had an affair, so why am I blaming myself for mine? -- it was eye opening. There were women who are navigating through this alone, with their husbands, and in a state of uncertainty. Yet all of us provided support to one another. I have made friends for life through this course."

5/20/16

- D. IL | HH Participant

"I thought I was going crazy, a complete failure, and everyone around me was in a healthy place. It was good to know that none of this was true. E - California"

4/22/16

- E. California | HH Participant

"The material is great and very in-depth. I see myself all over the pages which makes me feel quite validated so I no longer feel crazy and alone. Thank you for sharing hope, it is a great blessing! My Group Leader is fabulous. Her care and compassion really shine through and her voice is very comforting, too!"

4/8/16

- L. Florida | HH Participant

"Over the past 14 months, I have tackled this painful journey completely on my own. The only person I have spoken to was my husband. HH took me out of my isolation and let me tell my story. It also made me aware that others have a much tougher road than I do."

6/19/15

- R. Canada | HH Participant

"I enjoyed the group discussions. "

6/19/15

- C. Texas | HH Participant

"Thank you to all and to those in this organization who are caring!! To make the wheels turn and to make the whole picture of the pain and anguish real is amazing. I am thankful for all you have taught me....given me and blessed me with. May God bless you...whoever is reading this. May you know that you have touched and reached another broken home, because of what you do. Blessings""

6/19/15

- Anonymous | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope was such a wealth of compassion, support, and expert guidance during this intensely painful and disorienting season. And the women in my group are now my "sisters"."

6/19/15

- B. Texas | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope is like water to someone dying of thirst. I needed people like me to talk to. And I needed to find ways to think about suffering, hope, and God in all this. "

4/23/15

- D. NC | HH Participant

"If you have any questions about Harboring Hope, know that it was absolutely necessary to my personal recovery. There is no roadmap when your world is shattered by infidelity, but Harboring Hope connects you with a community of men that truly understand the pain, confusion, and all-consuming effect that your spouse's choices have had on your life. I thought I was alone, and didn't know how to move forward - Harboring Hope helped me find other men that provided support while walking through content created specifically for our situation. "

4/23/15

- C. Illinois | HH Participant

"No one really understands how it feels to deal with everything that you have to deal with after an affair is discovered except people that have been there too. It's so nice to be able to hear others going through what I am going through and to be able to talk about the pain/anger/sadness together. I will recommend this to anyone that I come across that needs it. "

4/23/15

- A. Texas | HH Participant

"It is a huge help to have a plan of action to conquer this pain, and to have a list of things that are detrimental to the healing process."

3/5/15

- S. Texas | HH Participant

"Gaining a better understanding of what happened, what I was going through emotionally, and how to move forward with recovery was invaluable."

3/5/15

- L. USA | HH Participant

"Thank you so much for your wonderful leading and incredible curriculum. Painful at times but necessary for true healing. Thank you for using God's word as the plumb line for your material. Refreshing in today's "economy" of what to do in these situations. May God bless you abundantly. Everyone at Affair Recovey. Thank you. :)"

2/4/15

- J. Ohio | HH Participant

"I realized it was normal to feel the way I did and that there were steps I could take to help myself heal no matter what direction my life took. "

12/19/14

- S. Texas | HH Participant

"I do not know what I would have done had I not found HH. It was an answer to my prayers after my discovery. I not only found a group of ladies that could relate to what I was going through, I found 5 wonderful new sisters that laughed, cried, and prayed with me. I was very blessed with the group I was put into. We have exchanged personal info to be able to be there for each other any time we need. Finding people who could relate to how I was felling made me feel like I wasn't alone in this nightmare I found myself in. It was truly a Godsend."

12/4/14

- C. Texas | HH Participant

"I don't know how I would've gotten through the last three months without the ladies and mediator in Harboring Hope. The fact that we all knew each other from EMS weekend was the best part. I would highly recommend this for the ladies who meet at EMS. There's a connection during small group calls like no other and we are so comfortable to just dig right in to the conversation."

12/4/14

- L. Texas | HH Participant

"There are no words to adequately express what the Harboring Hope course and the level of healing it has brought has meant to me. As a hurt spouse who has endured multiple affairs before finding Affair Recovery and Harboring Hope, I can honestly say I am in a place of strength, healing, and insight I never thought possible. The band of sisters I have gained through my group members will be lifelong friends as we bonded "in the foxhole" of our own shared pain and healing. Our group leader was a source of grace and hope, as the focus was taken off of "saving the marriage" and onto letting God heal and save us as hurt women. As a result, I believe my marriage has great hope. My children have a healthier, stronger mother and role model, and my shield of faith has grown five sizes! The fiery darts will always come, but Harboring Hope and Affair Recovery have given me tools for healing, weapons for defense, and prayer-warrior friends I will have the rest of my life. To put succinctly, this course helped me clothe myself with strength and dignity, so I am truly able to smile at the future (Proverbs 31:25). To feel dignity again and strength to face the future are the two greatest gifts I could have been given in the midst of such desperate and dark hours. It has changed my life and therefore, my children's lives as well. How can I thank you enough? "

11/10/14

- W. United States | HH Participant

"It was great to share with other people that knew and understood what I was going through and where I was in the journey. Having a group of women you know aren't judging you because they've been there too was reassuring and made opening up that much easier. The insights you take away from them, the amount of material that makes you think, and the revelations you have about yourself and your nature make Hope for Healing a wonderful, positive, and encouraging journey. "

9/19/14

- C. Texas | HH Participant

"After having struggled in silence with infidelity and heartbreak I was relieved to find Affair Recovery and Harboring Hope. It has helped me a lot to share my pain with other women and start me on the right track towards personal healing."

9/9/14

- T. South Africa | HH Participant

"My leader was so open and honest about her own journey that it gave me the strength to keep on going and believe that there really is hope for my marriage. "

9/9/14

- P. Washington | HH Participant

"The women I met in my group are amazing. I have created some life long friendships that I wouldn't otherwise. Given the circumstances of my life right now, it's a special thing to have others that I can connect with, that are going through the same thing."

9/9/14

- N. Idaho | HH Participant

"I learned so much more about the workings of infidelity for both the betrayer and betrayed through the workbook. I looked forward to our weekly phone calls; it brought comfort during one of the most unsettling times of my life."

9/9/14

- L. Missouri | HH Participant

"Harboring Hope offered a forum to learn and discuss the pain that is being betrayed with people who can understand in a way no one who hasn't been betrayed can. It allowed me to gain perspective and insight through other's experiences and know I am not crazy, rather human and normal. I am so glad my group was here each week to take me on this journey."

9/9/14

- J. Oregon | HH Participant

"Talking with the people in this group was one of the most healing experiences. Through healing together I have found some life long friends."

9/9/14

- C. Alabama | HH Participant

"The combination of the course material and the small group discussion was fabulous. I am confident that I have explored every aspect of recovery and have a strong foundation to continue working on my own. And the group discussions provided a safe forum to delve deeper into my feelings and to get new perspective that I would not have discovered if I was working on this by myself."

9/9/14

- J. Virginia | HH Participant

"I just wanted to thank you. I have been participating in the Harboring Hope program and it has truly been such a blessing to me. I feel renewed and hopeful and am loving the support of the other women who understand. "

7/14/14

- S. California | HH Participant

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