We had been having problems, at least from my perspective, for at least a year before discovery. I had gone to my wife twice to tell her how terrified I was that our marriage was in serious danger. She assured me we were fine and that she still loved me. At the end of March 2010, I ended up in the hospital with a severe case of pneumonia. She told me before I was admitted that she didn’t love me any longer. I spent four days and nights in isolation praying. When I was released, I went to stay with my mom, so I could heal physically. Then, I planned to go back home and heal our marriage I was out of our house for about a month when I went back one night to get warm coats for the boys. I found a strange man sitting on our couch. It went downhill fast from there. In September 2010, she called me to say she made a horrible mistake and wanted to work on our marriage. The effort at reconciliation lasted two days before the other man was back in the picture. In December 2010, she called me and asked me to finish the separation papers. I said I would but not before Christmas. Before I knew it, I was committing adultery too with a girl I had known for a few years. In January 2011, my wife threw her affair partner out, and we started seeing each other and talking. The girl I was with left when I told her I was talking to my wife again. We went to counseling and a marriage weekend, but my overwhelming fear kept me from really committing to my wife. I could see she was sincere and was trying to repair the damage. However, after four months, my wife had to see her affair partner for a court case, and the temptation to be with him was too much for her.