This was a very helpful video. My husbands AP and husband are on this site as well, so I won’t elaborate on details. I have run into my husbands AP several times and I want to say I feel indifferent, but I just don’t. The feelings definitely evolve over time. I still look in disbelief that it’s all real. Seeing her makes it all so tangible. Now it just brings me to a place for a day or so, of being so angry at my husband. I have to relive knowing what horrible things he is capable of. He went into another mans home, brought her into ours. Introduced me to this woman. It’s hard to stay in the “present” at those times and see a new man. at one of the run-ins she said she was so sorry and how she had been so “manipulated”. I don’t know if this is a coping mechanism for her own sake or if this is how many unfaithful women feel, but it’s hard for me not to want to lash out. I keep reminding myself I’m not dealing with someone who thinks like I do and to treat her as such. I read months of messages and she was not victim and trying to draw pity from me is ridiculous. I want to strive to do as you suggest and forgive. I know there is nothing to gain from anything to do with the AP. I also hope that if my husband ever runs into her husband and there is an exchange of words that he won’t say anything stupid, since he is an AP as well.
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This was a very helpful video. My husbands AP and husband are on this site as well, so I won’t elaborate on details. I have run into my husbands AP several times and I want to say I feel indifferent, but I just don’t. The feelings definitely evolve over time. I still look in disbelief that it’s all real. Seeing her makes it all so tangible. Now it just brings me to a place for a day or so, of being so angry at my husband. I have to relive knowing what horrible things he is capable of. He went into another mans home, brought her into ours. Introduced me to this woman. It’s hard to stay in the “present” at those times and see a new man. at one of the run-ins she said she was so sorry and how she had been so “manipulated”. I don’t know if this is a coping mechanism for her own sake or if this is how many unfaithful women feel, but it’s hard for me not to want to lash out. I keep reminding myself I’m not dealing with someone who thinks like I do and to treat her as such. I read months of messages and she was not victim and trying to draw pity from me is ridiculous. I want to strive to do as you suggest and forgive. I know there is nothing to gain from anything to do with the AP. I also hope that if my husband ever runs into her husband and there is an exchange of words that he won’t say anything stupid, since he is an AP as well.