Affair Recovery

hi there.  we just don't know as we're speculating about his heart and where his heart was at and what was going on inside of him.  at the very least, there was a huge disconnect going on between the help he received and his own intention of letting it work and penetrate the dark places of his heart.  so, maybe is the best answer.  i know that's a bit pale, but the fact is we just don't know.  the reality is though, he's not safe right now.  though he wants to finally change, the proof will be in his actions from now moving forward.  we just don't know.  he may say that, but go back to his old behavior and acting out by the time i hit send on this message ya know?  truth is, if he's serious, he will get help no matter what, asap, even in the face of divorce.  divorce may be the best thing for him, as he needs help no matter what.  he has to get help for him first, then remarriage etc later.  if he is not using any meds for the bipolar, we also have a huge concern there.  i've edited your comment only to protect the names of other established centers etc etc.  i hope all this helps and makes sense.  thank you for watching and posting.