Our therapists (they work in couple) speak about "acting the crisis", i don't know the technical espression in English, in italian "agire la crisi".
That is the cheater is the one who acts the crisis, but both spouses are involved and responsible for the crisis. It's like the cheating was the symptom of an illness. Besides, after few weeks since my husband left the ap (a month and a half after the Dday ...he told me then that it was "true love" not just sex), i was supposed to be pretty well. I was not, of course. So they said, therapists and husband, I was destructive, that I focused only on my pain instead of being positive. Now five months have passed, my husband swears he loves me and wants i forgive him, but i feel like I've done all the work by myself. He thinks his love is enough. I don't know what to think.
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Our therapists (they work in couple) speak about "acting the crisis", i don't know the technical espression in English, in italian "agire la crisi".
That is the cheater is the one who acts the crisis, but both spouses are involved and responsible for the crisis. It's like the cheating was the symptom of an illness. Besides, after few weeks since my husband left the ap (a month and a half after the Dday ...he told me then that it was "true love" not just sex), i was supposed to be pretty well. I was not, of course. So they said, therapists and husband, I was destructive, that I focused only on my pain instead of being positive. Now five months have passed, my husband swears he loves me and wants i forgive him, but i feel like I've done all the work by myself. He thinks his love is enough. I don't know what to think.