I can relate to all the comments on here. My discovery is almost at the 1 year mark and I still feel traumatized with flooding, wanting to know why, and the desire to ask more questions. We have done a marriage intensive and professional counseling together for a short time. I am struggling with the fact that he has done nothing individually to try and figure out what his issues are. As he has done our entire marriage of 27 years, we just sweep issues under the rug and never deal with it. I struggle with “getting over this” and wonder if we ever will get to the place others have spoken of-“our marriage is better than ever!!” Right now it feels like it could happen again at any time! I also spoke to his AP, who provided me with truths that he chose not to tell me. He said it was so I wouldn’t leave him-sooo manipulative. I still wonder if I have all the truth. When I read these emails and comments I can relate to everyone on here and just still wonder if it will ever feel better.
Discovery
I can relate to all the comments on here. My discovery is almost at the 1 year mark and I still feel traumatized with flooding, wanting to know why, and the desire to ask more questions. We have done a marriage intensive and professional counseling together for a short time. I am struggling with the fact that he has done nothing individually to try and figure out what his issues are. As he has done our entire marriage of 27 years, we just sweep issues under the rug and never deal with it. I struggle with “getting over this” and wonder if we ever will get to the place others have spoken of-“our marriage is better than ever!!” Right now it feels like it could happen again at any time! I also spoke to his AP, who provided me with truths that he chose not to tell me. He said it was so I wouldn’t leave him-sooo manipulative. I still wonder if I have all the truth. When I read these emails and comments I can relate to everyone on here and just still wonder if it will ever feel better.