Rick, I understand where you mention sometimes a need for a "time out" when there is emotional flooding. We also want to be reassured when we are having that emotional flooding and it would help so much, if our wayward spouse would step in and physically comfort us during that time, whether or not we ask for it. Just coming along side of us, with gentleness helps so much and shows us, at least outwardly, it appears they understand this is painful for us and that they are willing to help mend the brokenness. B/c my spouse has not been so forthcoming, actually blames me for his affair, and therefore distances himself quite often instead of comforting me, even after finally responding to my questions, though I've not been aggressive about this at all.
Surviving infidelity, discovery, advice for wayward spouse pt 2
Rick, I understand where you mention sometimes a need for a "time out" when there is emotional flooding. We also want to be reassured when we are having that emotional flooding and it would help so much, if our wayward spouse would step in and physically comfort us during that time, whether or not we ask for it. Just coming along side of us, with gentleness helps so much and shows us, at least outwardly, it appears they understand this is painful for us and that they are willing to help mend the brokenness. B/c my spouse has not been so forthcoming, actually blames me for his affair, and therefore distances himself quite often instead of comforting me, even after finally responding to my questions, though I've not been aggressive about this at all.