Recovery takes commitment

I am 4 years past discovery of the physical affair.  Recovery doesn't happen unless everything is discussed and addressed - of course, in as healthy a way as possible.  I was willing to do what it took to recover.  My husband wasn't. He started counseling but stopped when he wanted to - far short of recovery...   short changed again - cast out of my own marriage, again.

Rick, your articles have gotten so much better over the years. I wish this article had been around 4 years ago. It might have made sense to my husband. But with his narcissism I tend to doubt it.