I'm literally dying on the inside-reading this, the comments. My husband whom I've been with 17years, never thought he'd drink again, never thought for once he would be unfaithful. Sober prior to meeting me, then into our relationship/marriage-13 years later-loses his mother and another family member-and starts drinking. That pain was one thing, but our love was still strong, and we together were going to be okay-as he kept telling me. Or at night-reaching over to touch him, make sure he is still there-for him to say "I'm right here baby, I promise I'm not going anywhere."....fast forward 17 years later to 2021 2nd trip to rehab/detox, he gets involved w/ female coworker... who was living w/ a man she claimed she was engaged to and loved. Yet she was texting my husband who was intoxicated at nights. Next thing he tells me we aren't connected, or intimate-and he leaves our home. A few weeks back and tells me he had to sort things out, but we will be okay. A week later-he has a mental breakdown-I get him hospitalized thinking finally he is suffering from his mother's death-but no, it's because he left me to run off with this woman, had committed adultery-and she dumped him to go sleep with another coworker who was his best man at our wedding. Now remember she's still living w/ the one guy, sleeps with a married man, ruins his marriage-sleeps with a third. I have always been devoted and loving and supportive and knew his addictions were going to be a struggle...but infidelity was something I was NOT prepared for. We decided we loved each other and wanted our marriage. I told him no contact w/ this woman. And he said he wouldn't. Yet another two months as we were trying to get him sober, recover the trust-here comes the woman again... dumped the other coworker, wanting to be friends with my husband. Here we are a year 6 months later-she managed to ruin his emotions, yes he now admits she was emotionally involved after the physical-and he is to blame as well as she. He filed divorce in May claiming his feelings changed. I spend 17 years and the last 5 years struggling with his drinking, then his affair, and continued relationship with this woman who is beyond mental, but she stole my husband, ruined my life, my future and now ruined my emotional and mental state. Time to heal? After the abuse I have gone through I will be surprised I wake up each morning. How can you trust again? Love again? I only can pray.....
too painful
I'm literally dying on the inside-reading this, the comments. My husband whom I've been with 17years, never thought he'd drink again, never thought for once he would be unfaithful. Sober prior to meeting me, then into our relationship/marriage-13 years later-loses his mother and another family member-and starts drinking. That pain was one thing, but our love was still strong, and we together were going to be okay-as he kept telling me. Or at night-reaching over to touch him, make sure he is still there-for him to say "I'm right here baby, I promise I'm not going anywhere."....fast forward 17 years later to 2021 2nd trip to rehab/detox, he gets involved w/ female coworker... who was living w/ a man she claimed she was engaged to and loved. Yet she was texting my husband who was intoxicated at nights. Next thing he tells me we aren't connected, or intimate-and he leaves our home. A few weeks back and tells me he had to sort things out, but we will be okay. A week later-he has a mental breakdown-I get him hospitalized thinking finally he is suffering from his mother's death-but no, it's because he left me to run off with this woman, had committed adultery-and she dumped him to go sleep with another coworker who was his best man at our wedding. Now remember she's still living w/ the one guy, sleeps with a married man, ruins his marriage-sleeps with a third. I have always been devoted and loving and supportive and knew his addictions were going to be a struggle...but infidelity was something I was NOT prepared for. We decided we loved each other and wanted our marriage. I told him no contact w/ this woman. And he said he wouldn't. Yet another two months as we were trying to get him sober, recover the trust-here comes the woman again... dumped the other coworker, wanting to be friends with my husband. Here we are a year 6 months later-she managed to ruin his emotions, yes he now admits she was emotionally involved after the physical-and he is to blame as well as she. He filed divorce in May claiming his feelings changed. I spend 17 years and the last 5 years struggling with his drinking, then his affair, and continued relationship with this woman who is beyond mental, but she stole my husband, ruined my life, my future and now ruined my emotional and mental state. Time to heal? After the abuse I have gone through I will be surprised I wake up each morning. How can you trust again? Love again? I only can pray.....