If he has broken your marriage vows then he needs to let you grieve, and process, and fall apart etc. It seems very selfish of him to cheat on you then request that you don't be sad about it. It seems quite controlling. Don't let him manipulate you into believing you are acting badly. As other articles have said, if u feel pushed into returning affection to him after an affair, by him or others, you will not heal. You should only return to trusting him by your own personal choice. He needs to live with the consequences of his actions. While he had the affair and it was a secret, he didn't face the consequences of his actions then, but now he is facing it and he doesn't like it, but it is as a result of his choices.
If he has broken your
If he has broken your marriage vows then he needs to let you grieve, and process, and fall apart etc. It seems very selfish of him to cheat on you then request that you don't be sad about it. It seems quite controlling. Don't let him manipulate you into believing you are acting badly. As other articles have said, if u feel pushed into returning affection to him after an affair, by him or others, you will not heal. You should only return to trusting him by your own personal choice. He needs to live with the consequences of his actions. While he had the affair and it was a secret, he didn't face the consequences of his actions then, but now he is facing it and he doesn't like it, but it is as a result of his choices.