What do you do when you have that gut feeling and even attempt to warm your spouse about someone who is obviously interested him/her? All I got in return was, "No, it's not like that. It's just a friend from _____". I completely trusted my spouse and was completely deceived. If I had listened to that instinct, I might have been able to stop the sexual affair before it happened. It was probably too late for the emotional part.
I had been calring giving that advice for weeks before the affair happened. My spouse initially denied it. Once I found the evidence (explicit photos, emails, etc.), it was impossible to deny. I didn't keep a cool demeanor, but I don't believe that an adulterer deserves compassion upon discovery. Especially considering the boldness of the lies and depth of deception that accompanied the betrayal.
But before that, I was trying to be honest and caring with my concern and trust my spouse blindly. Maybe I shouldn't have. Where did I do wrong?
Gut Instinct and Denial
What do you do when you have that gut feeling and even attempt to warm your spouse about someone who is obviously interested him/her? All I got in return was, "No, it's not like that. It's just a friend from _____". I completely trusted my spouse and was completely deceived. If I had listened to that instinct, I might have been able to stop the sexual affair before it happened. It was probably too late for the emotional part.
I had been calring giving that advice for weeks before the affair happened. My spouse initially denied it. Once I found the evidence (explicit photos, emails, etc.), it was impossible to deny. I didn't keep a cool demeanor, but I don't believe that an adulterer deserves compassion upon discovery. Especially considering the boldness of the lies and depth of deception that accompanied the betrayal.
But before that, I was trying to be honest and caring with my concern and trust my spouse blindly. Maybe I shouldn't have. Where did I do wrong?